Bridal party drama

Sorry, that sounds stressful! I’ve read a lot of posts on WW saying that destination bachelorette trips are a new trend & really ask a lot of the bridal party financially. Even a drivable destination with AirBnB is an extra cost for some people- you never really know what someone can or can’t afford. If you’re the main one planning the activities, what if you all did the bachelorette weekend local instead so they could participate more?? Or for example if it was going to be a weekend getaway- do something with the group in the local town before you leave (like a breakfast or brunch) so they can participate, then the rest of you drive to the destination with the bride.

Obviously financial concerns are an issue for these 3 ladies. I would definitely refrain from passing judgement or referring to them as “cheap”- you have no idea what their financial situations and priorities are. For many people, taking an optional trip for a bachelorette is not a financial priority for them/their families. I would suggest scrapping the current plans, and planning a more financially conservative local night out instead (one that does not require overnight accommodations).

Did you check budgets with everyone before planning the trip? Destinations are hard financially for some people. You don't get to spend other people's money, and bachelorettes are really only optional. They have been trying to tell you that the plan is out of reach for them, so maybe try and listen to that without judgement.

If you still want to plan something, maybe do an evening out instead.

View Quoted Comment The ideas were agreed upon everyone in the group.This is not only my planning, it’s a group collaboration. We have also went over several other options but it has been stressed by the brides daughter that the bride wants a weekend getaway. Technically, my job was to find and organized the air bnb.

View Quoted Comment Well, unfortunately, brides don’t always get what they want. If a destination bachelorette trip is that important to her, she may have to fund it herself; otherwise she will need to adjust her expectations of her WP/bachelorette party. A bride should not be dictating the details of an event not hosted or funded by her. She should be grateful for whatever celebration her WP plans.

Sounds like you were saddled with an unrealistic task here by the bride's daughter. I would definitely step away from that, and just say that you tried, but it's not working out.

These weekend getaways are getting more and more in the way of friendships. Not everyone can do that and there's so much pressure to make it happen.

View Quoted Comment My thoughts exactly, I was confused why anyone was sharing the plans with the bride anyway. She’s not in the group chat for a reason

View Quoted Comment That’s exactly what I did today….stepped away. It was becoming a huge headache.

Yeah for one it’s tacky in my opinion as a bride to tell her party what she expects. She should just be grateful for her friends wanting to do anything as a bachelorette is not required. To be so forceful about wanting people to throw you a vacation out of town is very rude to me. She doesn’t seem to care much for others financial situations and it’s clear the other friends don’t feel like they can be open about that. Probably because they know it would cause an issue with the bride. I think it’s good you stepped away. This whole tradition of expecting others to throw you a vacation out of town and expecting all your friends to come up with all that money and expect it to be a priority in their friends lives has gotten out of hand.


My husband and I were very laid back for our wedding. We didn’t expect anything crazy from our loved ones and didn’t treat it as “the happiest day of our lives.” Just as a fun day celebrating love. We didn’t even want to be the focus of all the attention lol. If we had people that wanted to do fun things for us or help us then that was great! But if not then 🤷🏻‍♀️ didn’t bother us. Because we didn’t have crazy expectations we ended up with way more from our friends/family than we expected and as a result we were super happy because we didn’t end up disappointed with anything! People want to help you when you’re not very pushy and entitled lmao

Oh that’s a lot.
I didn’t want to burden my girls with lots of expenses or a weekend away so I had one night out. I even invited them all to sleep over so they didn’t have to pay for hotels.