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Krista
Savvy May 2020

Bridal Party & Groomsmen Party hotel?

Krista, on July 18, 2019 at 7:29 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 1 10

Hi all,

just wanted to ask a really sincere question about where they are staying. Is it just me or does it just make sense for everyone to stay at the same hotel the night before for the convenience of next day? My FH has two brothers who are part of his groomsmen party and I am wanting them to stay with the rest of the groomsmen party at the same hotel. But the MIL is saying she will rent a different hotel villa for the grandparents and the two brothers and her and her husband. The grandparents and parents can stay wherever but is it ridiculous of me to ask the two brothers (groomsmen) to stay at the same hotel as everyone else? I believe we, as a couple, DO get a say in where the bridal and groomsmen party stays at. Their job is to help us getting married - not a family vacation.

The whole groomsmen parties also drink heavily and they tend to wake up late.. so I am extra worried that they need to be reigned in more!!!!

Please please let me know your thoughts!!

10 Comments

Latest activity by Vicky, on July 19, 2019 at 2:25 AM
  • Jennifer
    VIP October 2021
    Jennifer ·
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    I would ask them to stay. And I’d also ask that the alcohol be limited.
    Plus the fact I’d tell them that they need to be ready by ____- like 2hrs earlier than they need be! Lol
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  • B
    Dedicated June 2022
    beee ·
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    Will you be paying for the brothers to stay at said hotel? If not I really don’t think it’s appropriate for you to dictate where they stay. Also if you are worries that the groomsmen drink too much then maybe it’s best they stay elsewhere.
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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
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    I don't see the point in staying far from one another, it'd not like you're all in the same room.
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  • Hillary
    Expert October 2021
    Hillary ·
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    If you’re that worried about it, sure, ask them to stay at the hotel but if you’re not paying for it, you don’t exactly get to make them stay where you want. What does your FH say? We are not staying in the same hotel as most of the bridal party. I am not worried about the groomsmen as they are all in their mid 30’s and they know not to be late. But I hope your situation works out!
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  • needmorewine
    Expert May 2016
    needmorewine ·
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    You don't get a say in where they stay unless you are paying for their accommodations.

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  • Krista
    Savvy May 2020
    Krista ·
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    Mind you, we are paying for this....

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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    In my opinion, even if you’re willing to pay for it, no you get no say in where people spend the night before your wedding. Or in how much they drink.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    You absolutely have no say where they stay the night before. You’re right, they’re there for your wedding, which is a one day event.
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  • earias
    Champion December 2017
    earias ·
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    No, you do not get a say in where they stay nor do you get to control what they do.

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  • Vicky
    VIP January 2020
    Vicky ·
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    Their "job" is to show up at the wedding, not to help you get married. You don't get a say in where they stay unless you're paying for it. If you're willing to pay then you can offer them the option of staying in the accommodations you're offering, but they get to decide where they stay.

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