Bridal party hair/makeup

I think it appropriate however I feel like if you want them to do this then you should cover one or the other or at least put towards the overall cost.

No, it's not. However, you should be aware that etiquette dictates that if you require them to have a particular look, or to get their hair and makeup professionally done, you should be paying for it. If it's optional, then your BMs can pay for whatever service they would like to have. These services can be very expensive. Since you have more than a year until your wedding, I would reach out to each one of your bridesmaids separately, and have a chat about what they can afford. If you let them know now what your idea is (about going to the salon together the morning of), they should have time to save enough money to pay for those services. But you should have the prices in hand when you ask them, so they know exactly what they are committing to.

If you require the bridesmaids to get hair and makeup done then you should be paying something towards their service
I personally dont want to pay for hair and makeup for my bridesmaids, so when i find the salon i plan on messaging them individually and telling them what the charges for hair and makeup will be and to let me know by a certain date if they want to have it done(so they are aware they would need to pay)
Otherwise they can do their own hair/makeup

I agree that if you're going to be really specific about something then it's nicer for you to pay for it. but i think it'd be kind of nice to get ready altogether!

It's okay to want everyone to get ready together, but if you are requesting that they use a professional (that costs money) or requesting a specific style, then you should be paying for it. Another option (which is what I'm doing), is to let them know who you are using and ask if they want to use them too...but give them the option. I told my girls that I hired a hair artist & make up artist, and let them know where I would like for us all to get ready (it's at a house). I told them the cost of the services if they want to use them, but I also gave them the option to do their own.

Thanks ladies! The way I see it, is buying a BM dress is also a service, and each person pays for their own dress. I also don't want only 1 BM to choose to not partake in everyone getting their hair/makeup done together. I have a feeling 1 might not want to pay for it.

If you require they get their hair & makeup professionally done, you should pay for it. If it's optional if they get it professionally done or do it themselves, then it's fine to ask them to pay for it. I've been in 2 weddings, both were optional and the bridesmaid paid $150 for HAMU. The first wedding I was the only one to opt to have it done, the second one all but one girl did (she went elsewhere and paid way less).

You can require it, but then you have to pay for it. But no, it's not unreasonable for you to ask that they take the time to do that with you. Just not cool to ask them to pay.

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It won't be weird if just one doesn't do it. Opt to have the make up/hair person(s) come to you, wherever you are getting ready. She will just get ready alongside you guys. I was just in a wedding this weekend where it was an option to have the woman coming do our HAMU for $140, or we could do it ourselves. Some did, some didn't. Those of us who didn't did eachothers hair and make up and had a super fun time all together with those who did. Everyone looked great, no one is looking at your bridesmaids to see if they are equally pampered, and really, no one will be able to tell anyways if everyone has a little blush on, yours is the only face they're looking at. These are grown women. They know how to look nice for your wedding.

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That's just it. They are already buying a one-time use dress for your event. Should they also be required to pay for hair and makeup for your event? The general consensus is no. Not to mention, some people really do not like to get professional makeup.

Far better to phrase it as a request with clear information up front about pricing and no guilt trips for those who decline.

I have always thought that the bride should pay for cost of makeup/hair IF the bridesmaids are paying for their dresses/shoes. Because, not only have they spent probably $200 for dress/shoes... They throw a bride at least 2 different parties. My 2 girls threw me a bridal party and then I will get a bach party. So I feel it is best to pay for their hair and make up to pamper them for everything they have done for me through this hole process. If it is not in your budget, maybe don't require it and then say I am doing this if you want to join. Then it will be their decision.

I paid for HAMU for my wedding party, it was part of my overall budget. The last wedding I was in also paid for bridesmaid's HAMU but most of us wanted very select services: just hair, hair and eyeshadow/eyeliner, etc. That bride didn't want a specific look, but wanted us all to get ready together, and on time. For the wedding coming up I'm helping out with: the bride is getting HAMU and gave the bridesmaids the option of using the same person for $65. Most of the bridesmaids are getting either hair or makeup or both, but not everyone. If you want the experience to be a group activity, or you want a specific updo or look, you should factor it into your budget. Otherwise, it's perfectly okay if not everyone wants to opt in and pay for it themselves.