My wedding is in April of 2021, so I've got time. However, I am also one of those that like to heave everything planned and accounted for not at the last minute and am also in Nursing school, so I have to do things in steps when I have time. We picked a date, venue, & wedding party. When we first got engaged friends were super excited & really supportive. I have started trying to find housing for my bridal party since it is in a different city. To save our party some money and be accommodating to their family situations, I had found some VRBOs that would make the nightly rental about $120-$150 minimum less a nite compared to a hotel. Fiancé & I were planning on doin dinners as a thank you. I asked that my wedding party get there wednesday nite, as we are planning golf for the guys & a pedicures, massages for the girls. We want to be able to spend a little time with our party prior to the day of the rehearsal when everything gets crazy. So here is the issue, my MOH is telling me that I am already asking a lot of people to drive 2 hours away and now I'm asking them to take time off of work. While also spending money. When I tried to explain that I was trying to save everyone money and why I wanted people there for Thursday and also that there may be last minute things that need to be done, I got major push back. I was that people would be there for the rehearsal and wedding, so that should be enough. Also that I everything should be handled because what else would I be paying for. I do not have a wedding planner due to finances. Her wedding they didn't do all of this and she got married for way cheaper & it was handled. She had a very low key wedding and really didn't want all of the normal stuff. I'm just at a loss right now and so heartbroken that this is coming from a close friend and now I'm not sure she should be my MOH. I'm leaning on my friends more since my mother has passed away and I don't really have any family besides my father. What did everyone do for their wedding party and timeline. Also, I feel I'm going to have to talk to her and let her know what my idea of a MOH is, so what did you ask of your MOH & bridal party.