Bridal Party Makeup/hair - Who to pay for and invite?

I'm having my bridal party (five girls plus me), my mom, my FMIL, my FG, and my grandmother get ready with me. Of those, I'm paying only for my bridal party and FMIL (she lives on disability and I wouldn't feel right). My mother and grandmother are welcome to use the MAU services, but they're well off enough to afford it on their own.

I had 9 bridesmaids, my mom, my husband's mom & stepmom, and the flower girl. I paid for everyone's HAMU. Our grandmothers aren't alive, but I would have included them if they were.

I will have me and my three bridesmaids and two matron's of honor (5 total), as well as my mother and aunt. My FMIL declined an invite, saying she was going to her hairdresser, which is fine. My aunt owns a hair salon and is gifting hair/makeup to me, my mother and one of my bridesmaids (her daughter, my cousin), and I'll foot the bill for the rest!

For me, everyone is doing their own.

Were I paying, I would invite my mom, grandma and wedding party. my FMIL will be super busy with her grandkids whose parents are in the wedding party and i'm afraid it would just be a mess to invite her, though i would likely extend the invite which would likely be declined. I would also not invite his 2 grandmoms.

That said, every situation is different. I can't say for certain what you should do but here's some things to consider:

Time: you'll want to allow about 45 min/person for whom you are paying to get each thing done.

space: how much space is there in your getting ready location? some bridal suites and hotel rooms just dont have that much room for a lot of people and you will probably already be a bit stressed/nervous. It comes with the territory so be kind to yourself and cautious of people to space ratio

money: how much money is in the budget for this?

relationships: how close are you to these people? I am super close to his parents, siblings and nieces/nephews. However, his grandparents, aunts & cousins, i have never met. If you aren't close with them, having them get ready with you could be a bit more of a risk.

At the end of the day, whom you invite to get ready with you is your choice. Don't feel obligated to have the entire family running around you as you try to get ready. Hope this helps!

I am paying for HAMU for my bridal party and my mom. It seems the general trend is that if you require the service, you pay for it, but if you offer it as optional, they pay for it, so I think it is okay to extend the invite to others who may want HAMU services but have them cover the cost since it will be optional for them. Just make sure that you will still enjoy your getting ready time with the extra people there

Im paying a lil on the full bridal party including my mom & his mom makeup that's it no one else

Everyone in my bridal party wants to get their own hair and makeup done. So I'm only paying for myself!

Soooo this is a very tricky subject. My bridal party is paying for their dress and had the choice of getting their hair and makeup done with the beauty team I hired. When I was younger and in a wedding or a quince, I always had to pay for both services. I did not make it mandatory for the girls to get their hair and/ or makeup done professionally. They all chose to so I'm paying a portion of the cost, and then the rest is on them. The only person I am paying for hair is my moms though.

Also, don't overwhelm yourself the day of by having so many people around you getting ready. The more people, the crowded it is, the more noise, the more of everything.