Bridal Party Meeting

The responses you got is sooo Wedding Wire LOL!

If I was your bridesmaid, I'd honestly be thankful for getting a binder of info! I'm a bridesmaid for a wedding in November and I really haven't gotten much info at all - like nada! As a bride though, I don't think I'd ever go to all the trouble of making separate binders for everyone .... I'm too lazy .... I did put together a wedding weekend schedule and sent it out as a PDF by email to the bridesmaids and groomsmen. We all have our ways of relaying info, and I think yours works well!

Thanks for all the critiques, whether you agreed or not. Some of the comments were just uncalled for though.

His#1Lady, yep. In true Wedding Wire form!

I think the binder is a great idea. And you're fine; it's your wedding, you can do whatever you want!

I think it's pretty comprehensive. I mean last minute stuff will pop up, but you've got the basics covered.

Ladies, remember that this is HER wedding and HER bridal party. NONE of this affects you at all, so why do you care? Personally, it's not something i would do, but we had a Very small BP. If this is going to help her and her BP stay organized, who gives a shit? Seriously.

The binder is a complete waste of your energy and of paper. I use this new-fangled thing called the Internet for stuff like this. You should try it. And the shirts sound tacky. There is no way in hell I'd wear a bedazzled shirt that says "bridesmaid."

Well thanks for your opinion Married Old Hag, but my BP is not like that. We dress alike often. We love that type of stuff, so I guess that's why you're not one of my bridesmaids.

Thank goodness for that.

My BM's know each other so that helps. My cousin is MOH and her daughter is a BM, my other are friends from college of 20+ years, they have met several times over the years. I just group text them reminders and to get ideas of when we could go dress shopping. Getting all 4 of them at one time was a nightmare, but we made it work. No binders or welcome packets. I told them I don't care what shoes they wear as long as they are silver and a bit blingy.

I did something similar when I invited them to be in the wedding.guys got a one pager email with dates and highlights....if your friends are friends then they know and love you and would expect nothing less.

To your question I second the mini bio but maybe do like five question on each girl from your perspective...like...we met here, best laugh was when, coolest thing about her is. ..you get the point.

Happy planning and be sure to include pictures in the binder and color swatches if you can....the girls told me they loved having that on hand.

"A wedding binder. Meetings. 11 people in the bridal party. I can't even."

Woah , Emmy. I have 10 BMs. . . nothing wrong with that.

But, I didn't give them a binder, we haven't had any "meetings," and I gave them a variety of dress color options and a length and said go forth and pick whatever you want.

I think this is an amazing idea! Especially for such a big bridal party. I may do something similar with mine now. Not all have access to "the new fangled thing called the internet" 24/7 to look up information or check emails. I only have 4 girls but all have children now and my MOH lives 500 miles away so having any type of meeting will be difficult.

As to missing information, I'm not sure if this counts but came to mind. Have they met the groomsmen? Maybe you could make a list of the processional of who walks with whom and in what order? I'm sure others will think it's a bit much, but with such a big party, I know I'd need at least one copy somewhere!!

Please disregard all of the negative Nancies. I think a binder is a great idea. I am doing the same for my girls. I have 8 bridesmaids. I like the idea of a promises sheet and getting an idea of their favorite things. I will def be including that in my binder. I think that you should hold off on getting them the shirts until right before the bridal shower or bachelorette party so that they can wear them then.

I think it is a good idea. It wouldn't work for me because I am not organized, but if it works for you its great. I would wait on the shirts, saying this from experience. I have already lost mine, and I'm sure so have the girls and my mother haha. I'll be honest though I'll probably make new ones., because while I am not organized I love being crafty and the girls are very used to that.

I think it is a good idea. It wouldn't work for me because I am not organized, but if it works for you its great. I would wait on the shirts, saying this from experience. I have already lost mine, and I'm sure so have the girls and my mother haha. I'll be honest though I'll probably make new ones., because while I am not organized I love being crafty and the girls are very used to that.

I didn't say there was anything wrong with a large wedding party, but for me, I can't even. But also, welcome to the internets, where everyone has their own opinion. Sorry if not everyone here thinks this is a brilliant idea.

Edited: MalloryAbroad that is just hilarious. Just what my Friday morning needed.

We don't have an issue with you having opinion, but since this post did ask whether or not you thought it was a good idea, it wasn't really needed. I asked if I was forgetting any information to give them, and when I should give them their shirts, not whether or not you think I should do it. I also didn't critique you having a small wedding party, I couldn't have a wedding party that small, but then again you didn't ask me.

Well said @ His #1 Lady. All the negative comments on why you're doing it but the original 2 questions weren't asking if THEY WOULD DO IT for their wedding!!! Everyone does things differently. For a minute, I thought some of them were helping to pay for your wedding which warranted their opinions and answers to a question that WAS NOT asked in your original stat. Have a good day.

I did the same thing and i am extremely organized . I made a folder and typed everything up gave them all the information. People lost it and i still have to tell them things. But I did it bc it gave them a heads up as to what they were paying for. I gave them all the info on the dress, cost of hair,cost of makeup, times of everything. So there was no "oh i didnt know i had to do this or pay for that" I have 8 girls and yes it is a bit of a headache. If i could do it over i would only have about 3 or 4 girls. Its just too much drama, and who cant do this who cant do that. Anyway back to your binder i think its a great idea ignore that negative people and do what you want!!

Ashlee makes a good point--you still have 8 months for your wedding. Guaranteed at least one of your girls is going to lose this between now and then. That's why things like e-mails are so great. You can't "lose" them, all you need to do is type something in the search bar and there ya go. Also, if anyone claims they lost the email all you have to do is forward it to them. Easy.

Look, I'm super organized. I am the queen of spreadsheets, to do lists, and calendars. Some days I have my schedule down to the minute (seriously). But even I think this is a little much. I'm just being honest with you here. Even if a few of your girls appreciate it and find it sweet, is it really worth going through all the trouble?