Bridal Party moh

It's WAY to early to decide if your wedding is next October. Maybe wait until the beginning of the year, and you might have more clarity by then! There is nothing your wedding party needs to do now, so if you're struggling with it, don't make a decision in haste that you will later regret (this board is full of brides in that exact situation).

I agree with PP that you have time to wait on this decision. But what you should do now is work on repairing the relationship (not related to your wedding, but just because this is your best friend). Make the effort to get in touch and share with her how it hurt your feelings she didn't offer support when your brother died. Her reaction will tell you if the friendship is worth saving.

Agreeing with above posts but also mentioning that you don't NEED to choose a MOH - I just have 3 bridesmaids who have shared the responsibility of planning the bach and I text all 3 in a group message when I need help with something.

I agree - I think it's too early to to ask/make a decision/

I'm also an October 2022 bride and don't plan on asking anytime soon!

But, I also had this debate. I have my best friend of 10+ years who I thought would be my MOH - but unfortunately, I decided I will not ask her (instead I'm going to ask my sister). My bf and I have grown apart and haven't been too close and have bumped heads the last few years. She hasn't once asked me about the wedding or if I need any help - so I figure it's just not that important to her - which is fine - but I want/need someone more caring/proactive as my MOH - which is why I'm asking my sister (later next year). Do what feels right to you and don't worry about other people/their feelings (as mean as that sounds).

There are no rules about who and who is not included in your wedding party or gets a special title. You don't need to have a MOH at all, or you can have two if you want.

If your wedding isn't until next October I really would wait to decide. I wouldn't ask people to be in your wedding party more than a year before your wedding (I think 6-10 months is the sweet spot) and you can also ask them to be bridesmaids then and designate an MOH closer to the actual wedding date if need be.