Bridal party NOT sitting with dates at reception?

I think depending on the size of the bridal party, they should be seated with their guests. I am planning on doing similar seating but with the WP's plus ones seated with them.

I would personally not be happy with being separated from my husband at a wedding if they weren't doing a head table.

I liked the way my brother and SIL sat the bridal party at their wedding. They had groomsmen and their dates at one table and bridesmaids and their dates at another table. Both tables were in front of the elevated sweetheart table.

For our wedding, we only had a MOH and Best Man so there was no need for even any bridal party table. We had our sweetheart table. Our Best Man (DH's brother) sat with his family. My MOH and her date sat with other mutual friends.

I've seen that before and it makes absolutely no sense in my head.

Most people reason that they want a head table so that THEY can enjoy their bridal party - but if you're not going to sit with them, why the hell are you going to take them away from their family/SO???

To me, thats odd but just my opinion of course.

We're not even having a bridal party table, we are going to be mixed in with the guests. My brother's wedding was like that and i loved the idea.

Plus, how often will FH and i really be sitting anyway haha

My FH was just in his BM's wedding and they did something like this. I wasn't really a fan since I probably only knew 5 of the 200 people that were there and I barely even knew them. So I really had no one to talk to the whole time and didn't really enjoy myself. My plan is to have a sweetheart table and have the bridal party sit with the families at the first table. My reasoning was that I didn't want the BM's wife sitting at some random table in the back but I guess they weren't thinking the same way

I am also setting up my wedding like your friend. My husband and I will be at our own table and the bridal party will be at their own table. The seating will only be for dinner and their significant others all know each other so, no one will be left alone. When the bridal party is introduced, they are still walking with the person they were paired up with. I just thought that it would make things easier if they were seated with that person. If there is a separate table for the bridal party, would the bridal party's significant other already be seated at the table? Or would the bridal party be scattered around with their significant other? We lost the bestman because of this. His wife was not in my bridal party and she told her husband that if she couldn't be with him the whole time then he couldn't attend the wedding.

I would never separate people from their dates. It makes no sense whatsoever.

Mrs. S - I concur.

Not understanding the reasoning behind seating the WP without their dates. That means your husband or boyfriend or other way around is eating the dinner with out you. I would personally not even sit at that table, I would constantly be looking back to see my husband. That seating arrangement is not cool at all. I made sure the wedding I was in, in FL, I was seated with my husband, especially since he was not in the wedding and had to sit alone at the church and part of the reception while we were being introduced and what not.

" When the bridal party is introduced, they are still walking with the person they were paired up with. I just thought that it would make things easier if they were seated with that person."

Easier, sure.. But more comfortable? Probably not. I'm sure your bridesmaids would much rather sit with their husbands/dates than with one of the groomsmen that they may or may not know very well, just because they have to walk with them.

I think that is odd. I was in a wedding where I sat with the bridal party (I didn't have a plus 1), but I really didn't know anyone. I ended up spending very little time at that table, just ate quickly and then went over to the other tables where my family was... I live far from my family and was happy to get to the chance to see them, so I wanted to spend the time with them. I think people should consider who everyone is actually going to want to see and talk to, because otherwise they just won't enjoy themselves as much.

Okay, I'm so glad I'm not alone in my thoughts on this one.

The bridal party will be 8 people. I know A's 2 brothers and her cousin (who I haven't seen in over a decade) who are in the WP. FH's father is his best man and I didn't even think of this until now, but are they going to separate the mother- and father-of-the-groom????? If they're going to separate me form my FH (will be hubby at the time) they better separate them, too.

The rest of my family will be at this wedding a supposidely my FH will be seated with them. A told her mom something along the lines of, "If he doesn't know the rest of Melanie's family that's the real problem."

My FH gets along really well with my family, so I'm not that worried about him, but I just want to sit with him. I'm already going to have to be separated from him for the entire Catholic ceremony...

I am not going to tell FH about this. If he knew I'm fairly certain he wouldn't come to the wedding.

I planned on doing that, but then thought about how it would work. Most of the wedding party have kids...so if they bring their wife/husband plus kids...

Also, if we did this, and no one brought kids, we'd have 20...that wouldn't work.

I think what we'll do is wedding party table-including us so we aren't separated by our party, and then include a seat beside their family so they have a spot after dinner, toasts, etc. so they can be with their families after.

Hmm. I haven't thought about this, but it never occurred to me not to let our WP sit with their guests! That's madness. Our venue has a sweetheart table, and then maybe 8-10 other tables. I know everyone in my BP's significant other (with the exception of one of my BMs whose boyfriend I'm still waiting to meet), so it only makes sense to me that they should have their own table. The only person who would not be sitting with the WP would be my sister, my MOH, because she'd be sitting with our family.

Not understanding your friend's thinking, but like you said, the wedding isn't until June, so it could change.

Whenever I was in weddings with large WPs, they had more than 1 table for the WP, but people were seated with their SOs. I would sit with my date as opposed to a head table or a "special" WP table any day.

Why would the whole WP have to sit at the same table anyway?

We have a stage where we will sit and than a step down will be the wedding party (BM and MOH) and than a table with both our moms. I thought of doing WP with with their guest but I don't like BM wife. So I don't want her near me.

If I was invited to a wedding in which my DH was a BP member and I wasn't allowed to sit with him the whole time, I for sure would not go to the wedding.

"I thought of doing WP with with their guest but I don't like BM wife. So I don't want her near me. "

So everyone else has to be miserable because you don't want one person sitting kind of close to you?

They won't even be at the same table, it's not like you have to sit next to her or interact with her.

Lol! I feel a "It's MY day!!!" coming on soon....

Ughhh...I think it's always ideal to have peoole sit with their dates. We're seating our WP with their dates and other guests they know, with one major exception. The best man is FH's younger brother. BM is sitting at the family table, but his girlfriend isn't. I feel so badly for the GF, but FMIL doesn't want her at the family table since she doesn't know if this is a serious GF (i dont buy this excuse, bc they've been together for over a year). The worst part is, there is an empty seat at the family table, so

space isnt the issue. I'm so incredibly uncomfortable with this, but FMIL isn't budging.