Bridal party registry

By bridal party do you mean a bridal shower?

If so, the whole point of a bridal shower is to give the bride a gift for her new home (hence it is becoming less commonplace nowadays as many people live together before getting married).

To that end, even as someone who often gifts cash, I don't personally like the idea of giving cash at a bridal shower (to me I see it from the lens 'well why even have a bridal shower in the first place?') and either wouldn't give a gift or wouldn't go.

Assuming you mean "bridal shower," the purpose of this is event is to "shower" the bride with physical gifts to help set up the home. While I am a fan of giving cash at weddings, I have not given cash at showers, I still don't plan on giving cash at showers because it just comes off as a money grab to me. If you don't feel comfortable giving cash at a shower, you don't have to go. You can wait until the wedding itself.

I agree with PP. I feel funny showing up empty handed so I would still buy a physical gift, something small. But the point of a bridal shower is physical gifts.

A Venmo party is a straight up gift grab, and is not the same as a shower which is for physical gifts. I would decline the invitation and I would not be surprised if there is an extremely low turnout because this type of gift in a setting like this is considered inappropriate in many social circles.

Does she have a wedding website with a registry page? Typically people give physical gifts at showers, and if it truly is just a party, then gifts usually aren't required. If this is something you'd like to attend then I'd reach out to someone to clarify the gift situation and the type of event it's supposed to be.

View Quoted Comment They do have a wedding website but under their registry page it also just has both of their Venmo information 😬

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Oof gotcha. I guess they really just want monetary gifts then. Personally, I'd feel weird going to a shower without a gift, but to each their own.

Whoa, that's really rude to ask for cash like that. I would decline that invitation.

Initially I just wanted cash for my shower because I didn’t know what I wanted… but as time went by I started to see things that I actually liked so I just added them to the registry. Now I find myself just adding random stuff that pops up on my feed…and this is why I just wanted cash to begin with lol!!!


You can always put it in a nice envelope/card if you want to take a physical gift 🤷🏽‍♀️

I just wouldn't go


I'm all about cash gifts, but the whole point of a shower is to ooh and ahh over gifts. You can get stuff on sale, sentimental gifts, risque gag gifts to make everyone laugh.
This "shower" is just a cash grab. I'd feel weird attending any shower without a physical gift and weird attending this shower without a cash gift. It's a lose lose for guests

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I have this opinion as well - I would feel like I was just being asked in order to provide a gift. Otherwise - I would do a check in a card if your comfortable with it - I do not like the Venmo handles.