Bridal party.

Nope you're wedding party is for you and what you want not anyone else

View Quoted Comment I would allow anybody in the bridal party to have a plus one or at least their SOs. Being in a wedding is a huge time and money commitment, so it’s a kind way to thank them and have them enjoy the wedding more.


In terms of other guests- it just depends on what parameters you want to set. We gave spots to SOs who had been in a relationship for 6 months when we sent out the invites. However, we also named the SO in the invite, so they weren’t replaceable “plus ones” if that makes sense.

Only put the significant others in your bridal party if you guys want them. You will have to invite them because it would be offensive if you didn’t but they don’t have to be in your bridal party.

Nope it’s your wedding. I mean it’s polite to invite them to the wedding too but only people in wedding are your choice

View Quoted Comment The SO is invited. She was always invited. I wouldn’t not invite her. My question was did she have to be included in the bridal party.

I struggled with inviting significant others to my wedding... I know I know I sound so rude and mean. But I felt not everybody deserved a plus one, my wedding venue can hold 450 people... and when making my guest list between family and our friends we were at 250 people perfect everyone can have a plus one, but then my in-laws gave me a list of their friends ( they are socialites and have lots of connections and friends that are valid to invite) then before I knew it 400 people on my guest list. I also have a lot of friends who are in and out of relationships and having a spot for the significant other of that week vs someone who has been steadily dating deserves the seat more.


What I did was that if it was a serious relationship for sure invited, if a guest doesn’t have many common peers invited they get a plus one, and those who I know who aren’t in serious relationships but have multiple common friends invited they didn’t get a plus one. I also cut back on my family ( which is a lot my mom is 1 of 17) only first cousins and their significant other or a plus one invited... no kids. This was so hard but I work with kids and in my mind kids tend to go unparented during weddings and I didn’t want that stress.
Now my dance is open for non invited people, by that time a good majority of the older crowd will have gone and we will have the space. I also feel my guests can come to me and ask if their gf/bf or whatever can come and we can have a conversation about it... especially if they started getting serious weeks before the wedding after the invites were sent. I’m not a monster I want my guests to enjoy themselves.
But to be fair a good majority of our friend group is not in serious relationships...but I felt family deserves a spot over a plus one for someone who is gonna bring a tinder date.

View Quoted Comment I have one girl who is in the wedding that is with someone and I don’t know her SO. Does he still have to be invited? So anyone in the bridal party gets to have their partner?

View Quoted Comment Makes sense to me.

View Quoted Comment I personally would just ask her if she wants her SO invited. I am pretty lucky that only one of my bridesmaids has a boyfriend, and one of the grooms men’s girlfriend ( who is also my friend) is in the wedding.


If you don’t want them there then just explain that they ( your bridesmaid) will be busy all day and their SO may not have fun or have anyone to talk to? I wasn’t invited to my fiancé’s friends wedding ( we were engaged already) and not gonna lie I was a little offended... but idk why I wasn’t invited maybe they had a right guest list and I was an easy cut 🤷🏽‍♀️ Just be open and honest... idk your friend but worst case they might not want to be in the wedding anymore.. I’ve seen it happen... 😬 maybe just invite them to the after dinner party?