Bridal Party

I don’t see how thus is not gonna cause drama. They will be in the heat of their separation & it’s not going to be pretty. If it was me, I’d explain to them that even though they say it’s not gonna be difficult, this will take away from your day.

Ask them both if they think they can be cordial with one another. Some splits are amicable so it's possible, I would definitely talk to each of them though

You know I don’t think it’s a bad idea to ask each of them if they still wanna take part

I'm very sorry for your friend.

However, I've noticed you've got over a year before your wedding.

I would give it some time before you bring up how they feel about standing up together. A LOT can change in the next few months.

My advice is to do nothing but be there for them as friends. Your wedding is not for more than a year and things can change so much between now and then. They might reconcile. They might be fully divorced and moving on with their lives. Who knows? But the bottom line is that your wedding won't be directly affected unless they literally can't be in the same room together without fighting 14 months from now.

I don't think it's a huge deal tbh. as the wedding gets closer, you can talk to your friend and see if she is comfortable being in the wedding. most of the time the bridesmaids/groomsmen don't have to spend much time together except during photos, and you can make sure to seat them far apart, and make sure they don't have to stand near each other in any photos. I had to be in a wedding party with my ex-fiance a few months after we broke up and yeah it was super awkward, but I just sucked it up because I didn't want my friend to feel uncomfortable. I agree with everyone saying to wait and see what happens over the next year or so.