Bridal Party!!!

This isn't a decision you need to make immediately. If your wedding is next October, then you can wait until February/March/April to ask whomever you'd like to have. Use this time to feel people out - you only want to have your nearest and dearest be part of your wedding party. (You can find post after post here about people who chose too soon, or asked people they weren't close to, and had major regrets.)

If you aren’t super close with these other people and don’t talk to them often, I would not include them in the wedding party (and I doubt they would be expecting to be included either). Just stick with your best friend of 20+ years!

View Quoted Comment Yes, and that’s my thing. I don’t want to rush it. But kind of wanted to give myself an idea of who I’d have. My first thought was my best friend and go with my sis n laws and then I’m like - even though they are married to my brothers I don’t feel like I need them in my wedding but then I’d feel bad if not 🙄- Definitely going to sit on this one and not rush. I appreciate the advise ♥️

View Quoted Comment Thank you ♥️ 😊

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Never feel bad about not having them in the wedding. Remember that this is *your* experience and you want it to be as calm and drama free as is possible. Besides, it saves them money in the long run (no dress, etc.) and they can still be part of any pre-wedding events (bachelorette, bridal shower, etc. if anyone throws them for you).

View Quoted Comment Yes, I thought the same thing. I’ve thought of it all.
But just wanted others thoughts and opinions who aren’t related or anything just to see what you all thought. Thank you !

I have mine together, but it's really small. I'm not close with a lot of people and I have 0 friends of the same sex outside my family. So I asked my sister to be my maid of honor and my soon to be sister-in-law to be a bridesmaid.


When my fiance asked about maybe adding someone else I said no because there is no one else i would want standing up there with me.
And that's the point, they are there to stand with you, so it's a personal thing. You dont have to have a large wedding party and you dont have to have even numbers on each side.
And if someone gets upset because they weren't asked, they can get over it and you can just tell them maybe they need to take a look at what kind of relationship they are trying to have with you before they assume they deserve to be a part of something that special.

View Quoted Comment I’m glad that you have yours together ♥️ yes, i agree you don’t need a big bridal party, I’m okay with just my best friend with me. You’re right, I need to put others feelings behind. If we aren’t close then we aren’t close and that’s just that 😏

I’m only doing my best friend too, same with my sister in laws, I’m not super close with any of them. Yeah our bridal party will be uneven ( he has two brothers-brother and half brother)

View Quoted Comment Well that makes me feel better ♥️

I have my bridal party together. We get married in June and the standard time for dress ordering and alterations is about 6 months out. Plus, the additional expenses for the bridal shower and bachelorette, I wanted everyone to be prepared.


I’d suggest only having your best friend in the wedding to stand next to you. If you aren’t close to anyone else, they shouldn’t be up there beside you. The sister in laws, etc can be special guests to both you and your soon to be hubby. ♥️💪🏽

Girl you have have who ever you want as your bridesmaids! I don’t have many friends either but my fiancé does. So he has one more groomsmen than I have bridesmaid. But o couldn’t imagine anyone else I wanted in my wedding party. Don’t feel pressure to add an in law or anyone that doesn’t have as much meaning.

I’m in in agreement with the others who responded 🙌🏽 Don’t feel that added pressure to add people just because. I have four in total, and they each have played a significant role in my life and my relationship with my fiancé.


Also, it’ll be a bit easier to navigate gifts or any fun things you all will do the smaller your party. I’m having a blast picking things for this “bridesmaid proposal” and not worrying about shopping for like 8 people (no shade to those with a larger bridal party!).

Don’t feel pressured to have a big wedding party. I been to some weddings where there were 1-3 bridesmaids or none at all. I personally didn’t want any but was convinced the other way.
If your best friend is the only person you want by you then that should be it.

You don't necessarily have to include family members in the wedding party. You can have them fulfil another role in the wedding to make them feel a part of things. I'm not close with my brother's fiancé, so I just invited her to have her hair and makeup done with me, my mom and my bridesmaids. You could have them help guests find their seats, do a reading, or be in charge of making sure everyone signs the guest book!

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View Quoted Comment Yes, my mind still weighs heavy on just having my best friend with me ♥️ don’t want or need a big party it’s just the fact of not wanting to hurt others feelings😩 but I gotta get over that lol thank you for your advice.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your advice ♥️ 😍

If your one friend is the only person you deem worthy to stand up there with you, then let your fiance know, and go with it. I've known of other weddings where there was only one attendant. I'm guessing from your description that you don't have any sisters. What about cousins that you're closer to? You're also not obligated to ask your sisters-in-law to be bridesmaids, despite what pop culture will have us believe. Unless they've given any indication that they want to be, I wouldn't bother. Has your fiance mentioned how many people he wants to ask? That's the only area that you might run into an issue. If he has 3-4 friends/brothers/cousins that he wants to ask, he may have a harder time picking just one, and your friend may feel a little uncomfortable being by herself on her side. Another suggestion: do you have any male friends or relatives that you're closer to than the women in your life? It'd be unconventional, but it might at least even things out. That's my two cents. Good luck!

I chose my 4 best friends. Im not even including my own sisters. My family is too big and if I included my 4 sisters plus my husband's 2 sisters and my sister in law I would have a massive bridal party and its not what I wanted. We let our family know up front this was our plan and only one of my husbands sisters had anything negative to say about it. It was much more important for us to have our closest friends have a position of honor when our family will already be included in photos and other parts of the day.