Bridal Party

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Whomever you choose, please be completely up front (like Caitlin has been) at just how much time, effort, and money you will be requiring of them. That way they can refuse if it sounds like too much.

Being controlling and picky (your words) and having them help with your DIY to save you money and having to plan your pre-wedding parties would probably be too much too handle for the average bridesmaid. But as long as you tell them all your demands up front, you are at least giving them a fair shot.

View Quoted Comment It is a job though because if they want to be a part of my day, its their job to help make sure my day is what i want it to be. theyre there to help make things go smoothly. were celebrating my husband and i WITH them, but the celebration is not FOR them so im not obligated to make everything perfect for them. sorry but its not all fun and games and there are alot of times where i will demand seriousness and reliability because its my wedding and i dont have to answer to anyone regarding how im doing things. yes, it should be fun but it can be fun while theyre helping out. thats ultimately what theyre there for. my girls are my sisters and some bestfriends of many, many years so yes, in fact, they are totally fine with it. if they "werent happy" then i told them they didnt have to be a part of it because they were warned that theyre going to be required to wear what i want, do their hair and makeup certain ways, etc. you might not agree so you can do things differently in your wedding but as for me and mine, its my job to make sure things are planned out just how id like so theyll go relatively smoothly. its not my job to make my girls happy. if theyre not happy with how everyone is going to be, they dont HAVE to take part in wedding festivities and they 100% know that. in that sense, its important to forewarn everyone of their role so that you dont have to deal with unreliable bridesmaids. i happen to be having a formal wedding and id like all aspects of it to be formal if that makes sense. everyone is different and thats perfectly okay! im sure yours will be a dream come true for you and im sure mine will be the same for me. good luck girl!

I chose my MOH because she's known me my entire life and went to high school with my mother. She is the absolute best and I wouldn't of wanted anyone else to be the MOH except her. My bridesmaids are my sister and my too future sisters in law

View Quoted Comment That is a really good idea!!! Thank you so much! I am either going to do that or there is a time in the summer (just before school starts) that she comes out to pick up my niece from her summer vacation out here so I was thinking maybe then but if it doesn’t work out I will definitely consider that and make it work! Thank you for that option!!

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No problem!! Happy to help!

I have 4. My Matron of Honor which lives 3 hours away, my daughter, my future sister in law and my future cousin (who lives in a different state.) All of them have been active, I am not looking for them to plan a bridal party or bachelorette party do not need one and could careless for them. I chose them because one is my friends 25 years, my daughter, my future sister and the cousin cause she is just plain out awesome and it saved me some time choosing between my friends. (I don't have to deal with arguing, lol)