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Just Said Yes August 2021

Bridal Shower Advice

Nikki, on May 31, 2021 at 7:30 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 9
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So my wedding is this August. My fiancés mother's cousin is throwing me a bridal shower. I thought was a bit odd, simply because I do not really know her, and thought usually the brides family throws one. I myself have a little anxiety and dread thinking of going.



This person I'll refer to "Nancy", is moving up to Ohio in June and getting a new swanky condo. I get the feeling it is more about showing off her condo. She is not in contact with my mother or my sister who is MOH about the shower. She did ask me what day would work, she picked the month, and the time. I just get the feeling I will get there and just feel so weird.
When asking my fiancés mother, she responded saying it was Nancy's way of welcoming me to the family and since there was no inkling of anything going on she decided to throw one.
The invites have just been received. I just don't want to go for appearances and for them to be fake.



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Latest activity by Veronica, on June 3, 2021 at 12:37 PM
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    Dedicated September 2021
    Melissa ·
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    If the invites have already been sent out then I'm assuming this means you chose a date and gave her the green light? I agree that it sucks to have to go to a shower in your honor that you feel awkward at, but at this point it might be too late to cancel without offending her and that side of the family. Even if she does have ulterior motives, at least you'll get gifts I guess!

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  • Katie
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    Katie ·
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    Hi Nikki, although your intuition is probably right about her motive is partly to show off the new condo, could it be Nancy is lonely? Sounds to me she is looking forward to creating a celebration and who knows- maybe planning this shower for you and having the family come over is giving her a reason to get out of bed in the morning.


    Many times the events I am not looking forward to at all surprisingly turn out to be a lot more fun then expected! I hope this is the case for you! To avoid any awkwardness, just remember to smile, say how great it is to be so welcomed by the family and say how beautiful the condo is 😉 😂
    Good luck and can’t wait to hear how it turns out ❤️❤️❤️
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  • mrswinteriscoming
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    mrswinteriscoming ·
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    I think you should give Nancy the benefit of the doubt - I don’t know why she would put in the time or effort to throw a party in your favour solely if her intention is to show off her new place, and even if she wants to subtly show off the new place by hosting the event there, it won’t necessarily make it any less of a bridal shower purely because it is in her new home.

    Perhaps talk to her and try gauge what Nancy has planned.

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    Willow ·
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    If she wanted to show off her condo, she'd throw a housewarming, not a bridal shower. You had had the option of declining if you felt that awkward. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt
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    Lisa ·
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    I think it pretty cool that your fiancé’s family took it upon themselves to make sure you had a bridal shower given that “there was no inkling of one”. There is really no need for the host to talk to anyone other than the bride, which must have happened since a date was set that worked for you and the invites went out. I’m sure if your mom and MOH wanted to help, they would have contacted her, yes?
    Enjoy this celebration they are having in your honor.
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  • Samantha
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    Samantha ·
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    Maybe she thought her new place had the room, she had the time and resources and thinks she is helping?
    I think that she may not have realized your family wanted to do this for you, so she jumped in.
    I wouldn’t ascribe to malice what could just be her misunderstanding. She didn’t know you wanted your family to do it, and no one told her.
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    Cool ·
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    Is it so bad if both are true? She likely does want to invite you into the family and is probably proud of her new house and excited to host a gathering. I don’t see anything negative about that.
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  • Samantha
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    Samantha ·
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    Yeah...I don’t know why this is a bad thing? “Hey, we’ve got great entertainment space, we’ll host!” is par for the course for people I know
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  • Veronica
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    Veronica ·
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    There's no reason to distrust "Nancy's" reason for wanting to throw you a party. If the people you want are there, they will be celebrating YOU. Also, there is nothing to say that your mom and MOH can't throw you a shower of their own, if they wanted.

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