Bridal shower after legal ceremony?

I don't think you should feel guilty. This was a monkey wrench for which no one was prepared, and I agree with your Mom and MOH that you should get to experience everything.

I agree with pp I think it’s ok for you to still get those pre wedding events

I mean you do plan on having a bigger celebration and if those people are invited then why not. I think etiquette has slightly changed during this time and most people are understanding.

I’m the same way! I feel super weird having a bridal shower for already being married for a year. We are legally getting married this October but postponed the big wedding to next year. As someone said on another post, the rule book was thrown out when COVID hit in March. It is kinda weird and untraditional yes, but you should still be able to enjoy all the same fun events as any other bride even if things had to put in a different order due to COVID. We shouldn’t feel guilty because a pandemic ruined our fun.

If your family and friends want to throw a shower and bachelorette party for you, I say let them! Covid ruined a lot of things for a lot of people this year. You deserve to experience all of the pre-wedding festivities that you missed out on this year.

Nope, I'm doing the same thing. I still want the full experience of everything I had planned on doing before Covid hit. This is not a normal time so I don't think normal rules and etiquette should apply!

Coronavirus is the selfish one here. Not you. I think people in general are very open to all the different ways that weddings and bridal showers are being done now because of covid. I think your guests will understand too. If you have a guest that feels that having your bridal shower after the fact is wrong, that’s a hard cross off the guest list for me in my opinion. When people are so consumed over etiquette and “the right way to do things by the books” versus the happiness of a friend or family member, it makes me question them.

As long as everyone knows that you are already married, it’s completely fine under these circumstances.

Under this kind of covid situation, I think almost everything is understandable. We are doing the reception before the ceremony 12 days apart 🤷🏻‍♀️

I also feel super weird but everyone in my corner is like “we’re doing it.” Normal etiquette would say no but Covid isn’t normal and we’ve all had to adjust. I’m sure the bridal shower is possible and will be a beautiful experience. We still deserve our moment.

I absolutely would still do everything!

You should have the full experience it is not your fault that it was taken away I’m having a shower next year as well after being legally married it’s something I wanted as part of the experience I’m just going to call it a Mrs. shower honoring the new mrs but it’s still a bridal shower. If people love you they will be happy to celebrate with you no matter what!!