Bridal Shower and Bachelorette Party?

It can be either or both. Just remember that you can't throw it yourself, so you have to wait and see whether someone offers to host one or both for you.

Some people have both, some people have on or the other, some people don't have either. It just depends on if you want one and if anyone is willing to host one for you. I'm sure my mom will host my bridal shower and my MOH (sister) will host my bachelorette party.

Side note, a bachelorette party doesn't have to be the stereotypical strippers, drinking, raunchy stuff lol. I told my sister if she plans on throwing one for me, I'd rather it be a girls night in with games, food, movies, maybe some drinks. Every bride is different!

I had both. I actually had a bachelorette party and 3 showers lol. One of my bridesmaids threw me a shower, my moms best friend threw me a shower in my hometown, and my MIL threw me a shower in my wife's hometown. So as the PP'ers said, it is all about what others are willing to plan and host in your honor.

Either, both, or none. Whatever someone offers to host for you.

Thank you ladies! My moh was planning the bachelorette and matron of honor is planning a bridal shower I just don’t want them to be overwhelmed. Thank you ladies!

It can definitely be both either or none. A bridal shower should be offered by someone else. But I'm not sure why the bachelorette party can't be hosted by the bride? If no one in my bridal party offered to plan something I would have planned a girl's night out and whoever wanted to come could come. Now I get if you're looking for an elaborate party or a destination thing you would need others involved in planning and shouldn't pressure others if no one offered. But if you want to do something and no one offers I see no harm in you planning a girls night out having fun and celebrating this special occasion with whoever wants to join!

My maid of honor is throwing me both. Bachelorette party will be in June. We're going to New Orleans. Bridal shower is September a month before the wedding.

I will have both for my wedding.

Many people have both. I too had both.

I am not having a bridal shower .... i am having a movie night next weekend with a bunch of friends .... we were going to drink and play games and just have fun watching movies all night

We had a wedding shower (co-ed), and both of us had parties.

DH's side took him to a steak dinner and a show he'd wanted to see, and my side took me to Medieval Times (in costume, no less). Neither of us wanted the stereotype (I have... I've seen some things. I have no desire to see said things ever again.), we just wanted to do things we love to do.

In addition, two of our BP took us on a "surprise" (for DH, anyway) trip to our favorite baseball team's stadium for a special game. DH's favorite player was retiring in a ceremony before this game, so we went and had a great time. (Our team lost, which is normal. What was funnier is they lost to the same team they lost to on the day we met. And the same team they lost to the night before our wedding. It's a theme.)

TL;DR: do what makes YOU happy, not what stereotypes say to do.