Bridal shower and bachelorette

With COVID, many people are doing this! They're doing a small ceremony or eloping this year, and saving the bridal shower, bachelorette party, and large reception for next year. I say go for it!

I think that’s totally fine !

Totally fine! There’s so many things that have changed due to COVID!

Do it!! Have a wonderful time. Your friends and guests will understand. I hope ours do, as well. Ha! Ha!

I think its okay, with Covid happening it messes up alot of things. I am getting married in a week and still plan on doing all of the pre bridal events next year as well.

This is one of those, " It depends ..." things. I think it is fine and most people here may think it is fine. But showers and bachelorettes are not a guaranteed thing for any bride. TV and other media make it seem like everyone is entitled to them. And in reality they depend on your individual family and friends. And I think is is better for people to talk with friends and family about wanting these things, and hoping friends will see how much you would like these missed celebrations, than to just announce, I am having these later. Because you want to plant that seed that it is up to them, still, to plan these things as they would have otherwise. Not something you the bride are going to make happen. I think people have to realize in their heads, after someone's stripped down for Covid civil marriage, we as friends and family need to actively do these things for people who missed them. We all owe these rites of passage to them, and cannot sit back, shrug, and think, well someone else will do it. Of course, as in a natural disaster, people want things to go back as they were before. And friends and family need to have it in mind: without us friends getting off our butts and doing something to plan them, these things will get forgotten. Many will not have bridal parties, but they still have friends, and sisters and aunts, and we are those people. We need to get on our phones to each other when we hear of a cut back wedding, and say, so six months or so down the line, which of us are going to get together and do the shower, or a women's night out? Let's decide now, and commit ourselves now, and let this poor bride know for sure, down the line, we are ready and waiting to plan a party!

A friend of mine was supposed to get married this fall, postponed the celebration to next year, and will elope on the original date. I was planning her shower and bachelorette. I’m going to have them next year instead. She postponed for safety reasons, so it wouldn’t make sense to continue with having parties that ignore her concerns. It’s going to be hard, as my own wedding is right around when her shower will have to take place, but the events will still happen!

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