Bridal shower/ Bachelorette/ engagement party who’s invited to what?

Sounds about right! As long as everyone who was invited to pre-wedding events is also invited to the wedding, I think it's fair game to whoever you want to invite if you wanna mix it up

View Quoted Comment Good! I just don’t want anyone to feel outcasted.

We didnt have an engagement party.

Bridal Party- the women I invited to the wedding (since we arent having a co-ed party). I didn't invite anyone who I didnt invite to the wedding.
Bachelorette Party - close friends/family (my fiance is having his own party because we agreed these days were about us as individuals).
Wedding- Anyone invited to the above and then some.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for sharing! I agree when decided to have a engagement party so our families could meet. Honestly just a gathering of eating and talking with a few engagement games and prizes. I didn’t want to spend too much money on this because there where other things wedding related that are more important! Thanks for sharing

Sounds about right. Anyone invited to any pre wedding event should also be invited to the wedding. While you can invite all of the women on your guest list to the shower, it’s pretty typical to keep it to close friends and family. Your coworker’s wife who you’ve never met doesn’t have a place at your shower.

View Quoted Comment We didnt see the need for the engagement party because our families knew each other because of our son (baby shower, birthdays, etc).

Yea that sounds right

I'd say regardless anyone invited to those 3 invites must also be invited to the wedding. For the engagement party, I'd invite whoever you'll invite to the wedding that lives in the area. For the bridal shower, all the women who live where the bridal shower is. Then what you said for the bach!

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I think this looks great!

We lived in a different state than either of our families, and a lot of our friends also live far away - so travel distance was a big factor for us in these decisions! Here's what we did:

- Engagement Party: We had two "engagement parties". The first one was super casual and thrown by my best friend right after our engagement, so we just invited our close friends who lived in town and had about 20 people there. My husband's family friends also hosted an engagement party / "meet and greet" for us because they wanted to finally meet my parents! For that one the guest list was just our immediate families and his closest family friends.

- Bridal Shower: I invited all of our female family members (we both have really small families, so that was only 7 women!), plus all the bridesmaids, plus close female friends who lived nearby. It was in DC and I invited my girl friends as far as NYC, but stopped short of inviting my Boston friends. Having to buy a flight for a bridal shower (when it isn't your family or absolute closest friend) seemed like a bit too much of an ask for me! (Invited 30 people, 25 attended)

- Bachelorette Party: Bridesmaids plus my close girl friends! We went on a big trip to Vegas for my bach, so we extended the invite to a pretty large group of friends knowing that at least several people wouldn't be able to swing the travel or want to spend that much money! (Invited 18 people, 12 attended)

Wow thank you your discussion was so helpful! Congrats to you and thanks for sharing.