DISCALIMER:
When I asked my MOH I never said the word "Shower" just a brunch to celebrate before the big day.
Hey all! So my mom hit some financial snags this year and is devastated she cannot throw me the bridal shower she says I deserve. I was sad, of course, but thought it would just be a small affair at the house, maybe a potluck or something...but when I asked a few weeks later about it she got upset (embarrassed or sad or both) and let me know she couldn't afford to do ANYTHING shower wise and was so overwhelmed with work and taking care of my sister and niece that she wouldn't be able to mentally handle it, which again I understood, but I was so very upset because my MOH had asked for my moms phone number several weeks prior and her email, and so I thought perhaps they'd been planning something...I was wrong. I don't feel like a bride at all and feel like my family and friends and bridesmaids are all MIA and don't have a clue. I'm hurting and have been sad and cry a lot because I always pictured having my amazing friends and family around celebrating me becoming a wife, its maybe just too much to expect, idk, but my FI gets mad about me getting sad and thinks it me not being appreciative and excited about the wedding (which I am, I was just hoping for the love and excitement around that too)...SO my FI said to stop moping and if I really wanted to celebrate being a bride to be to take it into my own hands (meanwhile his groomsmen are on top of things and planning a WHOLE WEEKEND away with him) and so (even though its frowned upon) decided to approach my MOH and ask her straight up to help ME plan my own Bridal shower Brunch (just a low key affair here in NYC with a boozy brunch and maybe some games and fun stories being shared between the bridesmaids and girlfriends attending the wedding -- Were having a DW so our guest list is small and were not expecting physical gifts). I am hurt because I never had an engagement party (which isn't something a lot of people do anyway, but it was something I really wanted), I barely got congratulations from my own family (aside from my mom, who IS amazing and wonderful but IS very overwhelmed) and am not even asking my bridesmaids/MOHs (I have 2 MOHs btw but only one seems to care) for or expecting a Bachelorette party (which would have been nice but no one asked. Now, I'm sitting here feeling stupid for having to host my own shower but feel like I want at least a little celebration before getting married...what do you ladies think?