Bridal shower cost

I would say that your MOH should consult with the bridal party on budget (assuming she is not hosting it alone), and go from there. If she wants to involve you, it should be after she has settled on a budget with the BMs.

Personally as I bride I would not be comfortable with my bridesmaids spending that much on a shower.

Personally, this seems like a lot to spend for a shower, but that varies greatly person to person.

I have attended 10+ showers, including my own, and a majority of these were hosted at either a family/wedding party member's home (some who lived in a neighborhood had a community pavilion) or a reservation at a restaurant with a room for private parties. All of these options are typically free or have a low cost.

My shower was in my mother's home, which was decorated by her and my aunt and they cooked some light finger foods (small sandwiches, meatballs, dips, cake, mimosas). Ultimately, thinking back the day likely cost no more than $50 and I had the best time. The price-tag doesn't make the event

Are you also having a bachelorette party? How expensive are their dresses? Are you requiring they pay for shoes, jewelry, hair & makeup? Do they need to pay for hotel & transportation to the wedding? $250 seems like a lot per person for a bridal shower, the most I've contributed is around $100 and that was when we just had very few bridesmaids. My mother personally paid for my entire shower. Is there anyway they can host it at a cheaper venue, like someone's house or a park, to save money? Every bridal party is different so each bridesmaid should be consulted individually for what she is comfortable spending.

I agree with this comment. i don't see how she planned the whole thing without talk to the the other BMs about money first. Also, if they throw you the shower that IS your gift from them. the other guests will bring gifts from your registry.

I wasn't saying you did ... i was saying, if she spoke with them already and she is the one that booked everything then you aren't asking them to do anything. you MOH is. if they agreed to the price then thats it. you shouldn't feel guilty.