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Bridal Shower Costs

Janet, on April 10, 2022 at 12:47 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 3

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Hi,

Wondering for the bridal shower, should i offer to contribute to the costs? (as the bride)Wondering if anyone else has?Reason why is my MOH (sister) originally was going to do the shower at a restaurant or banquet or something, but now she said she will just do it at her house. And i don’t mean to sound ungrateful or anything, but her house is small, and i just don’t think would fit 20-30 people comfortably.. And she lives a far drive away from myself, and most guests.Also I think my MIL would be willing to contribute too. I just don’t want to sound like i’m being a pain or anything, but i would rather it be at a place, and I am willing to contribute to the costs too.Thoughts?

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Latest activity by Sloane, on April 16, 2022 at 12:25 PM

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Michelle · on April 10, 2022 at 1:30 PM
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As the bride, the only thing you contribute is a potential guest list of those local to the shower venue who are also invited to the wedding and a list of available dates. You should not be planning anything towards the shower because it’s a gift giving event, and in some social circles that extends to the bachelorette party as well.

If the living room is too small, set it up in the backyard. How far away does she live? A parks department owned venue is fairly inexpensive. Just provide food and beverages.
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MOB So Cal · on April 12, 2022 at 8:59 AM
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I agree this is something you'd best stay out of unless your sister, FMIL, or someone else specifically asks for your input. FWIW I hosted daughter's shower with about 25 guests in a restaurant; it was very nice, but I spent well over $1500 (and did nothing over-the-top). I was happy to do it and we could afford it, but that was my choice. It sounds like your sister is planning to do what works best for her, whether that's due to finances, logistics, or whatever. For you to "offer" to contribute with the goal of doing something more elaborate/expensive, there's a reasonable risk that you'll leave your sister thinking what she's planning isn't adequate and that might hurt her feelings.... If your FMIL or someone else asks about helping with your shower or perhaps throwing a separate/additional shower, it's fine to suggest they coordinate with your sister/MOH, and you can let her know that they'd offered to help, if she'd like it.
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Sloane · on April 16, 2022 at 12:25 PM
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That’s a tough one. I have learned the hard way that the shower should not be hosted and paid for by the bride #me. My close girlfriend offered to host a bridal shower but has no intention of paying. So now invites have gone out and I’m stuck with the bill which is unfathomable. I think she assumed I could afford it. The sad part is I didn’t want a shower in the first place. In your case can you find a happy medium and host it at a restaurant and split the cost?
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