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Bridal Shower Debate

Jessica, on January 30, 2020 at 1:10 PM Posted in Registry 0 7

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My mother and my future mother in law along with my sister (MOH) are throwing me a combined bridal shower. The grooms family typically hosts “cash showers” whereas my family selects gifts from the bride’s registry. So, in all fairness, I figure we can offer both options on the invitations (cash or registered at....) my mother in law can’t accept the fact that I want to do a registry since my fiancé and I own our own home and have been living there over two years now and says “we don’t need anything”. I’ve told her multiple times we are doing a registry and she still won’t let it go. Advice?

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Latest activity by Mary, on January 30, 2020 at 3:10 PM

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Nikki · on January 30, 2020 at 1:27 PM
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I say just do it. What is she going to do if you have a registry? She doesn't have to get anything from it, and you don't have to tell her you have one unless she finds out on her own, or I guess it's on the invitations. If she keeps going on about it, tell her it's done and you can't delete it, and don't want to delete it. Plus, how does she know what you do or don't need, I'm assuming that she doesn't live with you.
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on January 30, 2020 at 1:38 PM
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Just do it. You can have upgraded items anyway. It's common.
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Master November 2019
Mrs. S · on January 30, 2020 at 1:44 PM
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This doesn’t sound like her business to me
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VIP September 2020
Willow · on January 30, 2020 at 2:02 PM
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Whether you do a registry or not is none of her business.
I have never heard of a cash shower. I always thought the purpose of a shower was to "shower" the honoree with physical gifts. If you straight up do a cash registry for your shower, it may raise a lot of eyebrows
I would just not register for anything. My friend did not register for her shower. She got a lot of lovely gifts. I think it's good practice to start setting boundaries now with your MiL. A registry is an odd thing to fixate over
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Master November 2020
Kristen · on January 30, 2020 at 2:23 PM
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I think just have an honest conversation with her and just say that you are not going to do a registry. Kind of in a way say it to where it's like this is the end of the conversation and you're not going to change your mind but nicely. Tell her that you just want to have a bridal get together where they can just celebrate your upcoming day.
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Legend July 2019
MrsD · on January 30, 2020 at 2:54 PM
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Just make the registry and have your mom order the invites.
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