Bridal Shower Drive

I have received 3 uhinvitations to drive by s in by the bride for herself, sounded like a worst manners idea. The next 2, I declined, and found out after, no one said yes, so they did not happen.

View Quoted Comment I agree with Judith this is not polite. I would not attend as a guest. I would send a gift either by mail or in person at another time. The bride only contributes by suggesting a guest list. The rest..planning it herself.. is bad etiquette..which still applies even more so in a pandemic to navigate social situations

While it wasn't a bridal shower, I attended a drive-by baby shower due to Covid and the whole affair was super rude and gift-grabby. It left a very sour taste in my mouth. I would highly recommend doing a virtual shower instead via Zoom. That way, you can easily play games, etc. and everyone can participate.

Hi Amy! I agree with Hanna that virtual showers are way easier for planning games or doing fun coordinated things together!

If you’re having a drive by shower, I’d keep it simple and spend some quality time talking with each guest! I’d also prepare really cute and fun favors to give them for taking the time to stop by.

Here’s what some other brides have done: Drive-thru Bridal Shower guests help and Drive thru Bridal Shower.

Thank you ladies for your options and thoughts, it hard during this time to find alternative ways to do things and still make it fun. ❤

Well this got thumbs down, but because you mix two " never do" things together.
Fix those things. The first that offends people: brides should never plan showers, designed to gather gifts, for themselves. Not any party where they are giests of honor ( birthdays, retirement, showers.) In ordinary times, about half of the showers I have every been to are in a home, yard, or other small space. And have 10-15 guests. This is either because that is home many friends and family bride has . Or because groups are mostly in multiple locations. Or because guests are very different. And one group of volunteer Hostesses want to spendax $5-10 per person, and be with at least half people they know. Big venues like restaurants usually start at $25 per guest, inc tax and fees, and go up to $50 a person with drinks. 2_3 hostesses, 20 guests , minimum $600, up to twice that. Since anyone can give a shoer who is going to be invited ( women usually) some bridal party or relatives will di ide up to do two or even 3 small showers. That can still happen with Covid . I went to two last summer and one on the fall. A young single parent neighbor married. Her family and groom's livi ng in the Boston area. They did one. 2 coworkers and the bride's sister did one for her UNH school friends, and a few longterm friends. I went to school with her, now a neighbor 4 years. So MOH, and aunt of bride, and one cousin bridesmaid did Boston area, coworkers and sister Bridesmaid did one, and our town was given by a neighbor and a college friend bridesmaid. If you drop the idea of giving your own shower, which all condemn as rude. And see if some of your bridesmaids, or a Mom or aunt or sister, or a friend not in the bridal party, want to work two or three together, there is no reason not to mostly have a regular small shower. My local one, the hostess had elderly parents. So she ment to a campground nearby, and asked to rent two spaces . Parks and campgrounds are leery of parties. But they set up one tent, and one screen house ( food). everyone brought a lawn chair. Th food hostess brought home made ice ream, and brownies, and big cookies for making ice cream sandwiches. And the other built 1 fire to sit around, and put up LED lanterns and served diet soda or coffee, with rum, Kahlua, and something amber. And it was a good enough time that when a few said goodbye, going home to sitters, 11 plus 2 of the 3 hostesses wete there another 1 1/2 hour, with te bride. A measure of a good party. Everyone jad a good time, with only a little liquor, which means all were good about masks and social distancing, no prompting needed. The campground bathroom had multiple immaculate stalls. And the second tent had sanitizer, towels, gloves for any who wanted to spray and wipe with Lysol. ....
The bride was very excited, since this was the first of 3 small showers. I heard 16 were invited to ours, so 4 declines. Under $50 for the shower I heard, not bad for 16 people counting the hostesses. And a fee for each site, 2, plus a dollar a person. There was parking 100 ft away. Simple, fun for all, people love to sit and yak with food and drink on a warm evening. .............No one here thinks you should not get/ don't deserve a shower. Just that Covid gives mo reason to do what mo one would agree to in normal times, you giving a party to collect gifts for yourself. Let your BM and family know you have given up the idea of doing your own. And maybe you will have volunteers who said nothing when you seemed to be directing things, who would love to do something small, and will volunteer. In the best times some brides don't have showers, because friends do not care to throw one. More often, some friend or family member starts things going. Good luck.