Bridal Shower expenses

The bridal party are also ones who can help organize and pay. Hopefully they are as interested in doing this as you. Also, the bride's mother may contribute to it.

Nor should you be obligated to some large gathering. Other people may also arrange for a separate bridal shower, especially if they are creating the guest list. lol.

A shower you plan should not be an event that is beyond what you can comfortably manage.

I really hope you get some financial assistance from the rest of the bridesmaids. It's a tough time for many and no one should have to shoulder something like that alone. Stay strong!

Definitely don’t feel like you have to shoulder it all. I’d say either reach out to other bridesmaids and the mom’s or ask the bride if she can ask around for cohosts.

If you want help from the others in the party, you can reach out to them and ask if they want to help host. Find out their budget, and then plan a party that you all can afford.

You're not required to throw pre-wedding parties. It's supposed to be done voluntarily and as a gift to the people getting married.

The host is responsible. If you can't afford to host, you can ask the other bridal party members if they can. If the budget is too low and you cannot afford to host a shower, the bride doesn't get one. Plenty of brides don't have showers and are still perfectly married.

You should also only host one if you want to. It is not a requirement

View Quoted Comment I can afford to host and I don’t mind footing the bill. My question was who’s actual responsibility is it and does the rest of the bridal party come into play at all? I don’t want to expect something out of them I shouldn’t be or vice versa.

View Quoted Comment It’s not one persons responsibility because it’s not a requirement/duty of anyone. Anyone can host a shower. Family, family friends, in-laws, bridal party. It’s whoever has the means and time to host one.


If you want to take it on, you can ask if they are interested in co-hosting and go from there. Sometimes the bridal party splits it because they can all attend, sometimes it’s a few, and sometimes not at all. There are also ways they can help that don’t involve funds. Setup, games, overall organization, etc.

That is a lot to be held onto one person. you certainly can ask the others if they are comfortable and able to pay especially if they WANT to chip in with the planning of it.

Hello usually its MOH and the guest to pitch in with expenses. First to discussed where it will be the activities, food ,drink hotels stay if any. And amount that is excepted of those guests that agree to come and a deadline to be set then send out a text or email stating about the itinerary in details

Contact the other bridesmaids and ask for help with money and planning.