Bridal shower fb invite?

Not your place, just let her handle it. I agree it's not how I would do the invites, but she's hosting, so...

IMO it's more "tacky" of your guests to bring it up to you than it is to send them this way.

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FMIL's and FH aunts don't always have a filter haha

I do think it is a bit strange considering she's sending out paper invites to those without a Facebook (just send all paper invites!), but because you're not hosting it I think you made the right choice. I agree with @Daria though. Your guests shouldn't be telling you about the "tackiness" of digital invites that you had no part in.

I just dont think its formal. I mean I have a very formal theme going for my wedding so invitations make the shower formal as well. IMO when I get a facebook event its an event at a house (unless its my bachlorette but that is my bridal party and a few friends) anything at a restaurant or venue I have gotten formal invitations

I think it’s fine, for a bridal shower invite. I got an invitation through “e-vites” for a bridal shower and it seemed really cool and effective, I tried them out for my RD invites and it was easy and free. Even if they don’t have FB but have an email they can get them.

My MOH sent out my shower invite through Facebook - it was to a dozen of my closest girlfriends. No one had anything negative to say or was implied, everyone was super excited. Facebook is convenient, since a lot of people check it more often.

I think it's rude if any guest complains about anything like this. They should be excited for you and happy they were invited.

I've been invited to bridal and baby showers through facebook a dozen or more times. Never considered it tacky.

The last shower I hosted I created a FB event, but I had already mailed paper invites. The FB was just to help gather RSVP's for those who are inclined to reply that way.

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This is actually what my FMIL said more than that the fb invite was tacky, she was wondering why her neice got an FB invite and her sister didn't, when I said her sister didn't have a facebook she thought it would have been better to at least send the invites out so that everyone received the invite at the same time to avoid any issues (its been a week, MOH mailed physicals out yesterday)

The way I see it is, she’s planning a party for you. She gets to do it how she wants to. I know it’s sucks, I’m a control freak and I hate when things are out of my control. But I have taught myself to disconnect the idea of it being tied to the wedding and think of it more as a party someone is having for me

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That's the perfect way to put it!

I really wanted to disconnect from it but I worried that its my family & going to be family maybe I should have said something but it seems from everybody above that its not a huge deal so I feel better about it !

I think this all depends on how formal the event is and who’s invited. If it’s just close friends, sure, a FB invite is fine, but if it’s more formal with people who might not be as close to you, then it’s a little tacky IMHO.

I don't prefer the idea of afb invite, but I got an e-mailed bridal shower invite that was really pretty, and the rsvp was done with one click. Maybe suggest something like that as an alternative.

Personally, I feel like Facebook events are kind of...fake? I've been invited to many events on Facebook, and for some reason I always feel like I'm not really invited, like if I showed up people would be like "what is she doing here."

It's different if someone reaches out to me and says, "Hey, we're having a shower for X, I'd love for you to be there! I'll send you a Facebook invite with more details!"

I guess I just want some sort of confirmation that they didn't just go down their list of Facebook friends clicking names? IDK.

In the end, I'm on your side. I wouldn't like a Facebook invite. But then again, I'm not hosting!

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Yea I actually have received a bridal shower invite via text before, The brides sister downloaded an Etsy invite, and just sent that with a little message introducing yourself which I felt was so personal but after making one suggestion I felt if I made two id be pushing it haha

Oh man, I dread FB invites. They're great for big events and whatnot, but definitely tacky for something formal. My FH and I got a Facebook invite for a wedding once and my first thought was, "Seriously?!" It definitely made them look very cheap, which, they were.

This isn't something you really could've done much about. It really wasn't your place to send invites since your MOH is the host. You did a really awesome thing with the Knot list and provided all the tools your MOH needed. Just give a quiet apology to guests and move on.