Hey all:
I’m kind of troubleshooting certain difficulties in planning for my wedding, which is a super-budgeted destination affair due to my fiancé coming on a visa. We’ve been calling it an elopement due to not having guests (the fallout to that, particularly with my mother, has been severe. See family and relationships forum for more on that) but in truth we’re very open with everyone about the planning and would love family involvement and participation. We even plan to Lovestream the event.
My question pertains to building in-person events leading up to the wedding. On one side I am concerned how it may be perceived, as money-grubbing for a wedding nobody is physically attending. On the other, I’m trying to include people as much as possible to keep them in the loop and to hopefully negate hard feelings.
My thought is to do a bridal shower, which wouldn’t require my fiancé to be present. I could do favors and catering, keep it low key at my home. We do not have a registry and I feel like this is wise, to set a precedence that we really don’t expect people to contribute if they aren’t guests, in the traditional sense.
Or am I going about this the wrong way, given the circumstances? In truth I wish I could have a more traditional wedding but it’s just not possible. Anyway I’m getting ready to send out save the dates for the virtual wedding, I thought maybe a slip in certain envelopes for the ladies in my circles inviting them to a shower this summer might be nice.
Any and all advice is truly appreciated.
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