Bridal Shower Gifts- No Registry? (Asking as an MOH)

Did you ask her if she has a registry? I would just let her know you can't have a shower without an idea of what she wants for physical gifts. I've seen a stock the bar shower, where people just bring wine, liquor, wine glasses, etc.. you could throw that idea out?

Showers are for physical gifts, so, if she doesn't want any she really shouldn't be accepting the shower.

But maybe you could do what e= mentioned, that's not a bad idea. Some people do lingerie showers though personally that squicks me out as I don't particularly want people buying me lingerie unless it's...me. Or my husband.

Yeah, I've asked her about registering and she said they may have a small one, but they really just want cash. Maybe the shower and knowing that people will want to bring physical gifts will give her the nudge to register somewhere.

I thought of a lingerie shower as well, but she has huge tatas (H cup!) and undergarments are usually really expensive for her to get and I know she's picky about what she wears as well.

My idea for the brunch was to make it a recipe shower...have people bring their favorite brunch dish with the recipe to accompany it nicely written out on a recipe card. But I don't know if that really constitutes as a gift. We're kinda stumped.

If she is having a shower, she needs to register.

Yea I would tell her straight up, okay well we can't have a shower for you if you don't want physical gifts, so we can do an alternative shower where they give you recipes! She sounds like she's desperate enough for cash to not register, she'll be desperate enough for a shower that she'll make a small registry.

I registered only because I am having a bridal shower. We don't want any kind of gifts/cash for our wedding but you can always think of something you want for a shower. I really like your recipe idea.

You could always call it a "bridal brunch" or something similar. Same idea, but it's not technically a gift giving event. This is if she doesn't want to register at all.

The recipes are a nice idea. My sister did that as part of my shower. I haven't actually used any...most of them were super unhealthy or, like, jello shots, but, it's fun to have!

Well, it's not just about them wanting cash, they're saving to buy a place and they don't wanna accumulate a lot of stuff they currently don't have space for, lol.

But I agree, registering makes sense in this situation. I'll be straight up with her and tell her her options.

I like the bridal brunch idea. If she's really against the registry, we should just rename the event. I'd still do the recipes though, I think it's a nice touch.

If she's having a shower, she needs to register.

Off topic but I really hate this subtle way to ask for cash. If you want cash ask for it out right.

Stop trying to trick your guest into giving you cash. Something about it just seem underhanded to me.

I personally don't like bridal showers I think they're boring, but you do need a registry for it. Bridal showers are for guest to shower you with gift. If she doesn't want houseware she can do a lingerie bridal shower.

Yeah, I just left her a message asking her about registering for the shower. I think she'll be willing to do a small one, some of us had been encouraging them to do one regardless.

Okay she got back to me and they ARE planning on registerig. Problem solved! Should we still do the recipe thing though?

If they want cash you could say envelope shower. This has been done a couple times in my friends/family. Again a lot of people say asking for cash is tacky and you can't have a cash shower but you certainly can. I would rather give someone cash to go towards whatever they feel like then buy them a blender they will never use.

FH and I are registering for just enough items for my showers. We already have a furnished house so we're registering for expensive stuff we'd never dream of buying for ourselves.

Yeah, when I spoke to her she didn't take much convincing. They figure they'll store stuff they can't use yet and when they buy a place they'll have all brand new stuff.

I think you should still do the recipes! I've been to showers where they've done this. Generally the invitations include a recipe card so they're all a standard size and can easily be put into a book or box when they're all collected. I think I did this once and wrote a recipe for cupcakes, then bought some of the cupcake baking/decorating stuff off the registry.

Thanks Christine! Mailing the recipe cards is a good idea, I was wondering how to do that.