Bridal shower guest list

I didn't do that :x I mean that makes complete sense and you can definitely do that but there were some women I just didn't know at all on my husband's side and also who weren't super close to him but he invited and so I kept my list moreso on my side. For instance I didn't really feel the need to invite his female coworkers to my shower, etc.

We have approx 100 invitations going out for the wedding.
Shower invites will only be going out to local female relatives and bridal party.
38 invitations on my side. And only 17 women will be invited.

His side is sorta up to his mom and aunts.

Not every woman, no. Nearest and dearest. For mine, it was my mom/mil/grandma, and then all the aunts got an invite, and all my female cousins, and my bridal party girls. (Plus H’s aunts and one close cousin).

One way to think of it is: a shower is a gift giving event, so a shower invite is basically a gift request. If you’re not close enough to someone for that, I wouldn’t include them.

I invited all the women that were family or that I knew. I didn’t invite people’s wives that had never met.

Only our nearest and dearest. I personally find it rude to invite people who you’re not close with to an event that’s 100% about giving you gifts.

I only invited my closest friends and immediate family on both sides

My sister and mom invited all of the woman invited to the wedding that I know personally.

I was wondering the same thing. I don't want to invite everyone but I thought you had to invite everyone you're inviting to wedding. This helped me a lot.

My mother invited all the women invited to the wedding that were in the area (or an hour or less from the shower location) then all the bridesmaids.

I definitely didn't do that. I only invited my very close friends, bridal party, moms/gmas and cousins/aunts. I left off friends who were not local, and all our family friends. It just seemed a little gift grabby to me to include everyone.