Bridal shower honey fund

That defeats the purpose of the shower (which should not be hosted by you or your future wife)....to shower the bride or brides with gifts. No shower, no gifts.

If you don't want physical gifts, just don't register. You won't have a shower, but then people will default to monetary gifts for the actual wedding.

Showers are for physical gifts. If you don’t want gifts, decline the offer for a shower.

I would definitely not expect your entire honeymoon to be funded by your friends and family. Even those who do honeyfunds don’t usually utilize them that way. Either book the honeymoon you can afford on your own and hope that the honeyfund contributions will reimburse you for some of that cost, or still book what you can afford and use the gifts for extras that you otherwise wouldn’t be able to do.

Agreed with the PP. This type of party: 1 Is hosted in your honor by someone else (otherwise it comes across as gift grabby) and 2 Is done with physical gifts (or more non-traditional showers include bar showers for the couple’s personal home bar or recipe showers where everyone brings cooking/recipes/or cookbooks)

As old-fashioned as it may sound, showers are meant for physical items. If you only want cash it is considered to be in poor taste and to host a party where everyone just bring cash.

Also, please do some research on honeyfunds. They are entirely useless in the actual planning of the honeymoon and cost more than it would to just host your own website and offer a link to your PP or Venmo (which is effectively all those sites do).

I've never heard of a shower just for money, typically the point of the "shower" is to "shower" the bride or groom with gifts (so physical gifts). I would feel weird going to a shower and gifting money, I'd probably still bring a gift.

Showers are for actual gifts. If you dont' want that, then i wouldn't have a shower.