Bridal Shower Host?

It's not really 'proper etiquette' to ask for one. My MOH has offered to throw our couple's shower, but unless someone offers to host a bridal shower for me, I won't ask for one. Most articles I've read say that a bridal shower is usually held around the 3 month mark before your wedding. Maybe they're planning to host it, but since it's still a little too early, they may be waiting to start planning? Also, with everyone being spread out, whoever wants to host it may be trying to figure out the best option for everyone!

I know it can be a little stressful! I told my FH that if no one offers to throw me a bridal shower with the girls, then that's fine, but my feelings will be a little hurt. BUT we are having a couple's shower so that does help me feel a little better! I hope someone plans on throwing you one though, I know it'll make you feel special!

Unless someone volunteers you shouldn't ask or host yourself. Hosting a shower for yourself seems gift grabbing. Maybe someone in Ohio will plan offer to plan your shower, but I agree it wouldn't be right to expect your MOH or bridesmaid in North Carolina to host your shower since they will already be paying a lot to travel to your wedding and other events.

You're not really supposed to throw a gift giving event (such as a bridal shower) for yourself. Typically, if no one offers to host a bridal shower for you, then you don't have one. One thing you could do is host a bridal luncheon, which is similar to a bridal shower, except no one is expected to bring gifts (it's more of just a celebration, and/or you honoring those closest to you who will also be attending the wedding).

I agree with the others. However, my sister is my MOH & I just told her what I wanted, which people she needs to invite, the date & time. I’m one of the lucky few that can do that as she is my sister (we are extremely close).

If someone wants to host a shower for you, they will offer. It would be rude to ask someone or throw it yourself. Your wedding is 8 months away, I wouldn’t even be thinking about a shower yet.

You don’t ask, but your wedding is still a long way off, and a shower usually happens much closer to the event, so it’s entirely possible someone will start to plan one in a few months. Anyone can host and they can be anywhere — my mom and aunt hosted mine in their home state. I didn’t expect my bridesmaids to even attend as all were out of state. But they wanted to be involved in planning and started talking to me about it in maybe late May/early June before my August wedding, feeling out dates....only turned out, my mom and aunt were planning for it to be a surprise ! Hahah so after I picked my own date we stopped discussing it 😝

Agree with what others have said. You don't ask; if someone offers to host a party to celebrate you and shower you with gifts, then that's great! You provide the guest list and suggestions on date. But no one is obligated to, and asking introduces an obligation. Also, it's too soon for a shower (which is probably why it's not on anyone's minds yet) - it is normally 2-3 months before the wedding date.

You have a long time yet before anyone gets into shower planning mode. Someone will host it, be it your bridesmaids, your coworkers, someone. Leave that entirely up to them. They will ask you for date availability and guest list. That is all you do. Never host your own shower or take part in planning as that is rude. Also, you don't decline one when someone offers to host.