Bridal Shower Hosting & Budget

What I would do is create a group message and kindly mention that you had some ideas for your sister's shower and were wondering if they wanted to help plan. Worst case they say no.

Definitely ask them. Do you have a way to chat with each other and get ideas? Be blunt with your questions.

My experience has usually been that bridesmaid share hosting duties. However, I wouldn't assume anything. I would reach out to all the bridesmaids and let them know you have a few ideas for the shower but wanted to see if they were interested in co-hosting and if they had ideas/what budget they were comfortable at.

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I just got all of their phone numbers, so I'm going to do that ASAP. I'll see who feels comfortable contributing and go from there. Thanks!

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Yeah, seems pretty common that we all share the duties so I'm going to talk to them all sooner rather than later! Definitely need a budget, things can get pricey lol

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Just got their phone numbers! I'll definitely be forward. I want everyone to feel like we're on the same page. Thanks!

Sounds like solid advice so far! Definitely make sure you sort out a timeline for when you are holding it since some people may still have COVID worries or be waiting to be vaccinated first. Also, just in general, it can be really hard to line up multiple people's schedules. Have fun planning!

I would text them all separately if you insist on asking them for help and money. It's so embarrassing and awkward to be the one that has bigger budget constraints than the others. People feel pressured to contribute since everyone else might be.

Otherwise, I think if you want to plan a shower, you should just plan it. Plan the event you can afford and don't assume or plan for other contributions. If they want to help, they will offer!

Exactly right. Are you interested in cohosting, contributing, planning.
And bridesmaid, very close friend not in wedding party or older female family can assist, it is not necessary a bridesmaid thing. Sometimes bridesmaids feel overwhelmed with travel, lodgings, clothes. And when they do not volunteer, 1 or 2 other friends and an aunt or grandmother does the shower.
Deal with budget first, and space. Sometimes when people have free spaces, homes, yards, parks, they can do a bit more in people at $5-$10 per person, free plus food, than in a restaurant which has a $25 person minimum plus taxes and tip. This also can lead to two small showers in different spaces, miles apart, with each group of co -hostesesses doing an independent shower. And only the bride attends more than onr.saw,,

One shower.

Absolutely! honestly my bridal party each member individually told me after that they didn't do any of that. they just knew the four of them were doing it together but never discussed $$ so some of them spent a lot more than the others, etc. so you definitely don't want it to be uneven either.

when i was a bridesmaid, we all split it entirely even.