Bridal shower Invites

It is rude to invite anyone to the shower who is not invited to the wedding. Only invite those you are close to who are invited to the wedding and who are local to where the party is being held.

Like Michelle said, it is rude to invite people to the shower but not the wedding so I would only invite people you are close to that will be on guest list for your wedding.

You typically only invite the women you are close to who are also invited to the wedding. Inviting people who are not invited to the wedding and/or who you aren't close with comes across as gift-grabby because the whole purpose of the shower is to "shower the bride with gifts."

Bridal showers can be big or small events but in my personal opinion I think the guest list should be restricted to those who the bride is relatively close to. I’m not having a bridal shower but if I did I would only invite my friends and some of my mum’s friends who I know well/have seen me grow up my entire life (just my opinion).

I would not invite the +1s of your husband’s friends and definitely not invite anyone who is not invited to the wedding (that in itself is a big no no). I’m not sure of the context of why certain guests ‘won’t be traveling’ (i.e. covid concerns, destination wedding etc) but it is up to a guest to decide if they attend or decline. In that category I would stick to only the close people.

View Quoted Comment The traveling would be people in closer too but live farther away like I wouldn’t invite my friend who lives 6 hours away or out of state.

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.If it is a close friend, I would still invite them as a courtesy. It is unlikely that anyone would want to travel that far for a bridal shower but generally if it is someone who you are not inviting only because you think they won’t come, the polite thing to do is to invite them anyway and give them the opportunity to accept or decline.

Only invite local guests that are close to you individually and wouldn't mind getting you a second gift on top of a wedding gift.

Definitely only invite your closest friends and family! And if they’re invited to the shower, you have to invite them to the wedding.

My mom also just asked me to figure out how many women we are inviting to the bridal shower and sent me the "general rules" for figuring it out :

1. only people invited to wedding get invited to shower

2. Plus one's do not get invited to shower

3. Female spouses do not get invited if groom/bride only know male invitie.
We're inviting FH's brothers friends to the wedding who we hang out with regularly, I'm friendly with their girlfriends/wives/fiance's but I don't plan on inviting them to my shower cause I don't hang out with them one on one, I only see them when all the boys hang out together. The only exception of someone on my guest list not being invited to the bridal shower despite being invited to the wedding is my uncles wife, they've been married since long before I was born but I don't call her my aunt cause she's a terrible person and no one in my family likes her. We're only inviting her to the wedding for my uncle's sake and no she wont show.

Only invite the people who you're close to (and who are also invited to the wedding of course), and who are local or within reasonable driving distance