Bridal shower (is 40-50 guests too many?)

That’s a pretty large shower, actually.

The bride and her family (and in laws) don't host the shower. Your attendants will more than likely host one and ask you for a guest list.


It can be any size really though most are on the small side (30 or fewer) and is solely up to whomever is hosting based on their budget.
It is also customary for social groups such as fellow church members, coworkers, wine clubs or similar to have a shower for you because they want to celebrate with you even though they're not invited. Be courteous and accept the party.

View Quoted Comment That’s what I’ve been reading. The sad thing is we both have a very large family with just aunts we have 9 between the both of us. I might have to lean more to having 2 party’s which is what I was trying to avoid. Even if I eliminate most of the close friends we are still looking at about 30 people.

View Quoted Comment This helps a lot thank you! My sisters are throwing the party and have asked for me to put a list together and I didn’t want to throw them a huge list!

I would just pick who you want there. You are not obligated to invite evety cousin if you don't want to. Blame it on Covid or being shy.

I don't know if this is too many, per se, but it would need to be planned specifically for the venue. I went to a baby shower about that size and it was fine because there was space for it. The only iffy part was how long the gifts took. Everyone was bored. If you're going to do gifts in front of people, maybe consider gift bingo or something similar.

We are planning on either doing it in our shop which is huge or renting out the American Legion in our town so we’ll have plenty of room at either place. But I never thought of the gift bingo that’s a great idea. Thank you!!!

The host(s) should tell you how many they’re comfortable hosting and you can go from there. You should also take the venue and social distancing into consideration. Can you fit 40 people spaced 6 feet apart?

Yeah FMIL doesn't get a say on this guest list. Invite who you want. If you need to, tell her that the hosts capped it at 30 or something

I think that's totally fine! I invited 45 or something and had 30ish women come. It was a great time. As long as the space fits everyone and there is enough seating & food, it's totally fine.