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Bridal Shower Massachusetts

Erika, on August 6, 2019 at 2:13 PM Posted in Massachusetts Planning 0 4

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Okay, this is a two part question.

1. If anyone has recommendations for a bridal shower venue under $2k anywhere in Massachusetts for 50 people.

2. So after I got engaged my MOH offered to throw me a bridal shower. Which I'm totally fine with. Massachusetts is pretty expensive for those who don't know. I've been keeping a list of potential places for her. Including food and mimosas for 50 people, it comes out to $1500 or so.

I know there's some etiquette about the mother of the bride hosting the shower. And then there is some others about cohosting, ect. My mom passed away this year but my grandmother and aunt raised me and I'm pretty sure they would cohost if we asked.

My FMIL (who is a dream!) would contribute as well but I'm trying to leave her out of it. She's already offered to throw our rehearsal dinner which I know is etiquette. But I'm super thankful and would rather just not ask for anything else. (We're covering the wedding ourselves, as a side note)

What's the best way to ask them to see if they want to cohost? One of my BM's wont be able to contribute as she's in school and I honestly don't mind contributing on her behalf.

My family dynamic is on the odder side hence the confusion.

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Caytlyn · on August 6, 2019 at 2:40 PM
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You shouldn't ask anyone to cohost. If they want to, they will offer. You also shouldn't be researching venues for your shower. Your MOH knows her budget and will find something that suits it. $1500 is expensive for many people and that's an awkward conversation for your MOH to bring up to you.
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MrsD · on August 6, 2019 at 2:44 PM
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I would let your MOH decide what the budget is, she may opt to have it somewhere cheaper or a different theme. You could always tell her it's worth asking if other BM or your grandma/aunt want to cohost but other than that I'd leave it up to her.
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Kelly · on August 6, 2019 at 3:19 PM
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It seems like your grandmother and aunt have said something to you to make you think they'd co-host. If so you can mention that to the MOH. I would just check with MOH about budget as many people do not realize showers are expensive, especially here in MA where costs are high. You should also ask MOH if she wanted to surprise you or have you involved with the shower planning. On here it appears most showers are done by surprise, I personally have never seen a bride not help with her shower, again because we live in an expensive area it would be difficult not to help some how. Having a quick conversation with the MOH about her plans for your shower will likely clear up any confusion.
As for suggestions community centers, VFW posts, elks Lodges, we have some great parks and historical sites that charge very little for permitting.
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Mcskipper · on August 6, 2019 at 4:06 PM
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Anyone that offers can host (or contribute) to a shower, but I don’t think that it’s ever appropriate to approach someone and ask for “contributions” (nor should each bridesmaid be presumed to give a certain amount of money towards the party). There’s also no etiquette as to who can and cannot host, aside from that dictating that the bride should *not* host. Whoever offers to host should plan the party that they can afford. That said, theres certainly no reason a shower needs to cost $2k, and if that’s not something the host can afford, I’d change plans —trim the guestlist, use someone’s home or yard. A restaurant with a private room is a great option for a smaller group , especially if you can negotiate some sort of prix fixed menu , but space and cost would probably make that less doable for a group of 50. Any event space like an elk lodge or vfw hall, or community center usually has tables and chairs and a low rental price— to bring in food trays and mimosas to somewhere like that could easily lower the budget if there’s no wiggle room on guest list.
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