Bridal Shower, one of the most anxiety producing moments of my life

OMG i know how you feel! i hate being the center of attention i have no clue how i will feel at my shower or even the wedding!

I did when I had mine. The hardest part for me was when I was opening my presents, everybody was staring at me and waiting for me to say something. I knew what presents we were getting (obsessed with my registry), so I wasn't really excited and surprised about the presents. Another anxiety attack happened right before we got to the place in a car, I had nausea, lol. To be honest I was glad to be done with the shower and go home with lots of presents.

I know how you ladies feel. The way I am handling a bridal shower, it is just going to be me and my maid of honor. I have told everyone that you can give gift cards. Because I have no idea what else we need. My wedding is June 25, 2011.

I'm always uncomfortable opening gifts in front of people.

I have had an anxiety disorder my whole life. I would be a wreck before the shower....but knowoing the wedding was coming up and considering I have tried avery therapy and natural appraoch known to man....I started taking prescription meds earlier this year. Best thing I ever did! I'm nervous about my showers now, but it's manageable.

My peeps know that I prefer more intimate settings. I'm sorry yours didn't consult you first.

I love having parties for me! lol I havent had one since my grad party, and I have been a hostess for 4 baby showers in the past year, so it was lots of fun for me. But the thing I have an issue with is making sure I talked to everyone and no one feels left out. Also, that everyone knows how much I loved them being there and I appreciated everything.

The gift opening was definitely the hardest part because everyone is staring at you and you know that nobody really cares how excited you are about your new 30 piece flatware set!Before mine was planned,I wondered if it was really necessary to have a shower.I especially didn't want people to feel obligated to buy us a gift.We already live together,have a child,and run a household so I didn't want people to be put off by thinking we expected presents.

Now that you mentioned it...I absolutely do not like being the center of attn.... oooooooo man.... I am freaking out already...

Since I put a lot of cool things on my Target & Wal-Mart registry I am curious as to what my family will get me. Knowing that there is only a handful that messes with Registries I can see lots of cash & gift cards. We would perfer cash, but we aren't telling them that, because 1.) We want to be able to go on our honeymoon. 2.) We want to paint our kitchen & living room & work on other home improvements. As much as I'd love new dishes, new flatware, new drinkware, etc, I just see fixing out home up as being a better option because right now (because of the previous owners) the carpets are terrible, the walls are Tar stained from contact chain smokers & the kitchen floor is terrible.. the cabinets need love too.So I definitely want money, gifts card to maybe Lowe's & Home Depot or Target & Wal-Mart to get things from my registry. I don't know how I'll do at my shower, I am kind of shy around everyone, even family.

Kali did you put tools and other stuff from hardware at Wal-mart on your registry. That would help there.

Omg I know what you mean! I have GAD- generalized anxiety disorder- and plus I absolutely hate being the center of attention, it makes me feel selfish. We are having a small wedding with only very very close friends and family, it should stay to about 17 people. I'm not stressed about it since I'm extremely comfortable with everyone who is going to be there. I am not having a bridal shower or bachelorette party because of it and people always are asking me why I don't want to (most of them don't know I have GAD and I just don't tell them). I mean I have two bridesmaids and maybe we'll have a girls night out the night before but that's it.

I think it will be manageable (well I hope)... I don't like being the center either....

Oh, I'm like that too. Shy shy shy. I can be loud when I feel comfortable, but that is not often.

Well, I happen to be surrounded by talkers....No surprise that talkers are attracted to listeners!

Anyway, it was fine! People know how I am. And it's only once in your life, anyway, right? Gotta have fun while we're young and still can. ;p

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This is kind of good prep for the wedding day.

Some tips:

Make sure you are calm and have some peace as you are getting ready for the ceremony.

Try to have as lil drama as possible, this often involves limiting the number of ppl in your wedding party or guests.

The night before your wedding day, try to schedule the rehearsal dinner earlier than later and keep it casual, simple, and comfortable for you.

Good luck!!!

I'm glad to know I'm not the only one! Apparently I did a better job of hiding it than I thought because everyone seems shocked at "how well I did". I'm just very glad that at the wedding Mark will be there holding my hand through the whole thing!

Ive got anxiety about the actual wedding... All eyes on the bride kind of scares me. I also hate being the center of attention! Im dreading the first dance.

I know this is an old post. But yes. I'm having major anxiety. I asked for a wedding shower, so everyone could be involved. I just wanted a little picnic/BBQ. Nothing crazy. But because my MOH has a daughter, and is trying to finish college, one of my cousins was in charge of the shower. Well when my mom told me what my cousin suggested as gifts. My fiancé and I both got irritated. She told my mom to tell everyone to get 'gag gifts' and my fiancé is like "oh no! I mean people have to have common sense right? They're not gonna just do gag gifts!?" and My mom said "well why would they buy a wedding gift now and then another for at the wedding?" and I smacked my forehead and said "They don't!? You either bring a gift to the wedding shower or the wedding. Not both unless they want too. I even told (so n so) where we were registered. So she could tell everyone who was invited. That way they know what we would like to receive." In fact, it was my MIL's idea to have it as a picnic, so we could get with some of the guests before the wedding and not have to load 60+ presents into cars after the wedding is over. That is how my Fiancé's family has always done things. So now here I am petrified to open gifts. Because lord knows what it's gonna be. If it was just girls, I would be fine. But we are talking Father in-law, boyfriends and husbands of my cousins, male friends, etc. And my wedding shower is this Saturday! So there's no backing out, or telling people to get other gifts (which sounds so rude😢) but this is not a BRIDAL shower. I don't want 'guessing who's bra it is', or 'toys' for gifts. I don't get where embarrassing the crap out of the bride or both bride and groom, is fun?? I know my soon to be husband well enough to know that if the first gift we open is a "dirty" gift. He will not be happy and probably won't want to open more presents. He is modest. He does not even talk about things in that category with his own family. Now my family. Complete opposite. We can talk openly about pretty much anything. However, I don't need 20 people staring at me as I look at a 'toy' that someone bought us as a 'gag'. Like C'mon now. Why are we even wasting money on 'gag' gifts?? It's still buying 2 gifts!! Might as well spend it on stuff the couple wants. 🤦‍♀️