Bridal shower questions

A shower with both genders is typically called a wedding shower. "Bridal" insinuates that it's just women. It's really up to the host of the event, but if you want to have a co-ed party, I would mention it to them. I think most modern showers are going that way.

We had two couples showers so my husband attended and we had guests of both genders!

I’m doing a little of both. My FH will be there right at the beginning to greet everyone. We are playing one game with him and then he’s going out to lunch with the guys. He’s going to come back right at the end as well so say bye and thank people for gifts and attending and all that. He really wanted to do that because it’s an all women’s shower but most of the women invited are on his side of the family and his family friends.

I had mine only girls but at the end my husband made an appearance

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For my bridal shower, the guests were all women. However, we had it at a community clubhouse, and there was a separate room with a pool table. My husband, his dad, and his grandfather were all there playing pool. They mingled with us a little bit, especially to grab food lol. I wanted my husband there to because the gifts were just as much for him as for me, so he was there for the gift opening and we also did the shoe game.

My husband attended mine, but he was the only male there. My bride's man which was my brother couldn't attend because he had to work. Like our wedding, my shower was took place in a town in between both families since our families live in two different states. My shower was a surprise so in order to get me there my husband tricked me into thinking we were meeting his dad for lunch. His parents are divorced and his dad is the only relative that lives near where we got married. His dad was working the day of my shower so my husband really didn't have anything to do in that area so he choose to stay for the shower.

We had a co-ed wedding shower (kids welcome, so our new parent friends could come). It was so much more fun that way.

Our thinking was that it was two of us getting married, so why would the shower just be for me? (And, on a funny note, if people were giving kitchen items... he's the cook in the family, not me!)

I did not want my first at any of my showers. Each was small, in a different area. And was all about my relationship with those mostly female friends and family . We did not know each other long before we married, so it was only 1 or 2 months before the showers that he met any of them. So I was happier it stayed with the shower hostesses, guests, and me alone. The Dynamics would have been completely different with an outsider.
But for my first wedding, at one shower, both of us knew almost everyone. Many couples we went out with as couples. And we had done many things, like hiking and camping, or concerts or road trips, all with each other in different combinations. I was quite happy to have him there. And would not have wanted him at one given by hometown friends and cousins I grew up with, whom he had met only in passing
If your women friends at the shower mostly know FI, see if he is interested. And see how the shower hostess feels. She may think k that as hostess, she ( or they) would have invited him if they wanted him. And that as guest of honor, you should not be bringing him into it. Guests don't invite guests ( just as you would feel if a wedding guest brought someone you did not invite, to your wedding. So tread carefully. If the hostesses want to give a party for you the bride, not you two as a couple, it is their choice, not yours. Traditionally, the hostesses invite the guy if they would welcome him, and if they don't, as guest of honor you should not bring it up . In our area, couples showers are rare. And in the old tradition of the friends and family giving the bride things for a home, and also, things for her trousseau, some pretty things to wear, grooming things, whatever, they usually intend the party only for the bride. They do not necessarily want to get to know or party with the groom, until the wedding.

Pardon my autowrite. No matter how I proofread, it intuitively knows I wanted to say things differently. And no matter how I go back and correct it, when I hit send it rewrites things.

Mine was all women, but my husband came about 3/4 of the way through, so he was there during the gift opening