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Bridal Shower rsvp - Couple Questions on Etiquette

Deanna, on April 9, 2018 at 10:07 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 8

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Hi All,

I'm the MoH for my sisters wedding and we're sending out Bridal Shower invites this week. We're asking people to RSVP by emailing us at a specific email set up for the event, but wanted to run a few things by the community because, tbh, I've only been to one Bridal Shower and I'm not sure of etiquette.

RSVP No - Add an Address

One thing my mom wants to do is add an address to our "Sorry you can't make it email" and add something along the lines of "If you'd like to send a card, send it to this address and we'll make sure the bride gets it at her shower". Is that rude/gaudy? I don't want it to come across like we're asking people to send gifts, but also want to give people an address to send to in case they do want to send something.

RSVP Yes - Parking

We're going to be hosting the Bridal Shower in Downtown Boston. One overarching question I've been struggling with is what's the etiquette for parking. There are no options for free parking in the area, so my question is, is it rude to make people pay for their own parking? Or is it expected? We'd be looking at ~$15/car and are concerned that the cost could get pretty high.

Thanks in advance for all your help!

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Latest activity by PalmTrees, on April 9, 2018 at 6:03 PM

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magnolia5 · on April 9, 2018 at 10:17 AM
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RSVP No-
I wouldn't include the address. If they want to send something, they can reach out and ask for your address. Most registries also include the option to ship gifts to the couple, so they may not even need to ask.

RSVP Yes-
While paying would be a nice gesture, I don't think it's required. Just let your guests no ahead of time that there is no free parking in the area.
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magnolia5 · on April 9, 2018 at 10:17 AM
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Annie · on April 9, 2018 at 10:19 AM
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I'm sure most guests attending any event in a city that paying for parking is expected. I would look up if there are any subway stops near by or bus stops to add to the invite, for people that might not want to drive.
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NVV2B · on April 9, 2018 at 10:19 AM
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I agree with magnolia5. Don't do the address thing - if someone wants to send a gift or a card they will ask you or the bride.
For parking - I would include a detailed map of options and let the guests know the costs so they can plan for it and carpool if needed.
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Mcskipper · on April 9, 2018 at 10:44 AM
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Rsvp no — absolutely NO. You’re probably sending registry info with the invites? If someone orders a gift online through the registry, it will automatically be shipped to your sister’s address. So if they want to send a gift, they already have everything they need to do so. Sending the address along in the “sorry we’ll miss you email” is awful, it sounds like pressuring people into sending gifts when they are absolutely not obligated to. If they want to , they can on their own.

Re- parking, I don’t think you have to cover anyone’s parking (does the event location validate??) but include some info? If I knew ahead that it would be expensive to park, I’d take the train or carpool so it would be less of a hassle. But I know the area, I know it will be expensive to park, haha.
If there’s absolutely no validation from the venue, I’d just include a list of a couple of nearby lots, and their pricing if I knew it.
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Mcskipper · on April 9, 2018 at 10:48 AM
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“ETA” * well not necessarily her address but whatever address they created their registry with, if they set it up that way. If not and shipping is not an option, they can always ask for an address in reply to your email themselves. Basically, if someone is determined to send a gift. They’ll find a way.

Annd in addition to parking lot info to potentially provide, you could also list the nearest T stop and how close it is/directions from there (if it is, of course, reasonably close)
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Brittany · on April 9, 2018 at 11:52 AM
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My mom is the one receiving the RSVPs for my shower and she decided text message is the best way (older people just call). She did not indicate an address for the gifts but some people that could not attend asked her for her address to send the gift to so my mom can bring it to the shower for me. Also, our bed bath and beyond registry gives the option for guests to send gifts directly to our home, which many guests have done already. So I think indicating an address is a little rude, I would let guests ask for it. And as far as the parking goes... I think many people would already know they'd need to pay for parking given the fact it's in a city
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PalmTrees · on April 9, 2018 at 6:03 PM
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I would definitely not mention anything about sending a card. If someone wants to send something, they’ll figure out how. As for parking, if I’m going to the downtown of a big city, I know I’ll have to pay for parking. It might be nice to let people know where the closest ramps and/or surface lots are located!
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