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Brittany
Expert September 2020

Bridal shower venue drama!

Brittany, on March 11, 2020 at 8:46 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 11
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So my mom is very old school and is even complaining that I’m aware of what date my shower is. Also, the date is end of July in northern VA so it could be 78 or it could be 90. I personally get extremely irritated when I’m too hot... my mom wants to have the shower (30 some people) at her one level small home and do tents in the backyard for shade... my MOH has talked to her mother who is also like a mom to me and has a beautiful estate home she is willing to let us use for my shower and she’d be totally hands off and let my mom and MOH host it. My mom thinks the idea of using someone else’s house is weird but I think she really just wants to have it at her house. I don’t know how to tell her I’d prefer it not be there without hurting her feelings? Any help with this or am I being a brat?

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Latest activity by Brittany, on March 11, 2020 at 10:36 PM
  • Rebelle Fleur
    Master July 2021
    Rebelle Fleur ·
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    You’re not being a brat you’re just voicing your opinions. I’d say tell her and she’ll either agree or disagree and just add that your guests will be more comfortable in an air conditioned space.
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  • Katie
    Expert January 2021
    Katie ·
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    It's all about how you frame it. Start with reiterating your gratitude for her throwing the party and how excited you are. You can mention your friends mom offered her space, which will be perfect as they can accommodate a bit more comfortably with AC. I think if you talk about the offer in a very excited way and almost as a solution then it will lead her that direction.

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  • Allie
    Dedicated May 2020
    Allie ·
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    Like pp said start by saying how grateful you are that she’s throwing this together for you, but that you think it would be so much fun to have it at your friends mothers house instead, and also potentially less stressful for her to plan. My mom is planning my bridal shower at one of her best friends house which is much more suited to host a shower than my parents place. She probably just wants to maintain some type of control in the situation so keep that in mind when talking to her for sure! My mom tends to be the same way haha
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  • Eshell
    Devoted July 2021
    Eshell ·
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    She will understand let’s keep positive. Mom we need more space so everyone can feel very comfortable and move around. It’s summer time we don’t want to go outside if we do not have to. Please understand Momma. How about you cook breakfast one morning for the bridesmaids and I before we go shopping ?
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    Super August 2020
    Alex ·
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    You don't really get a say in your shower. Let your mom and MOH take care of it and just enjoy the day. You will have a wonderful time with your friends and family no matter where it is.

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    Judith ·
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    You have brought up the idea, and they do not want it. Drop it. They know what the weather is like. They are giving the party. People have partied as she wants for centuries in that area, without AC, and if neither host thinks it unreasonable to be outside for a couple of hours, minimally active, in mostly shade, with refreshments, you should respect that they are the hostesses.
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    Devoted September 2021
    Samantha ·
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    Your not being a brat! I would do the same thing. You should talk to your mom and explain why you want to do it this way
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I would find it rude to host a shower for someone and have them tell me where it can be and how to plan it. You should leave this between your mom and MOH if she’s also hosting.
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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    Perhaps it would be best tor frame it as saving your mother clean up and stress of having 30 people at her small home?

    That's a relatively small party, but still - a lot of work for your mom!

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    Judith ·
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    I have done showers from my home, and where I brought everything to another location. Packing everything up, hauling it some where else in containers, or in a carton or on platters, is a chore just to wrap. It will be far more work for mom to do the shower elsewhere, than at her home. Does not save cleanup.
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  • Brittany
    Expert September 2020
    Brittany ·
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    It will most likely be catered and it will eliminate having to rent tables chairs and tents
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