Bridal Shower with destination wedding

A bridal shower is not something you plan for yourself or request, someone has to offer to host one for you. And if someone does offer to host one, only people that are invited to the wedding can be invited to the shower. So it's really up to your mom and/or bridal party if you'll have a shower.

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I did not know that! Thanks!

Mrs. Fall Bride is correct. There is however no breach of etiquette if a group of women, knowing they are not invited to the wedding, want to host a shower in your honor. This is not uncommon in the workplace, clubs you belong to, church groups and neighbors where you grew up.

I am having a DW and both a bachelorette and shower (that my bridal party and friends are working on) which seems weird to me for a DW but my friends and family are pretty adamant

With a DW, an optional "welcome dinner" the evening before is a great way to let guests mix & mingle before your wedding. Plus, it's nice to provide another meal for all the guests who came so far.

A BBQ is great if there's a spot you can do it and get some help. My sister's in-laws hosted a BBQ at a park near their DW venue. My family hosted a BBQ at the house they rented at my DW. At a friend's DW, his parents hosted a light buffet dinner at the hotel everyone stayed at.

I love small DWs (less than 50 guests). So fun & intimate! Happy planning.

My wedding isn’t s destination wedding for me but is for most of my guests and all of my bridal party. One bridesmaid and maid of honor are hosting a shower for me where I live. They’ll be the only members of the bridal party there but also invited are two of my local friends and my fiancé’s sisters. I think a shower could still work if some are willing to travel but you might have to accept that your whole bridal party might not make it.