Bridal shower

I would suggest asking whoever is hosting it what they prefer

My first suggestion is not to have your bridal shower 4 months before your wedding unless that's truly the only time that works for the host(s) and the VIP guests. I've also never seen someone do a "grand entrance" into a shower. Just arrive like normal. I agree with Melle, this is a discussion to have with whoever is hosting.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the suggestion 🙂 Exactly how soon before the wedding you could have a bridal shower.

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You could have it whenever, but traditionally it's within 2 months of the wedding. One of the benefits of having a shower is to get people excited for your upcoming wedding, it may not have the same effect so far in advance.

I just had my shower this past weekend - wedding is not until next July thanks to Covid but point being, the shower can be whenever the host wants it to be. I ended up walking in after everyone got there with my mom and aunt who also came. I wouldn’t call it a grand entrance by any means it just meant I went around and said hi to everyone instead of people showing up and coming up to me to say hi. Didn’t plan this, just worked out this way but I think either way works!

Yeah idk what PP is talking about, a shower can definitely be four months in advance of the wedding. I was already at my shower when my guests showed up and I thought that was good because I could greet them

I would ask the host when they want you to arrive. I arrived at my showers at the time specified by the host.

You could do either, do whatever is most comfortable for you. Like others said you could also ask the host what they prefer

I have never known a host or hostesses for a shower who did not want some or all of them to arrive before the guest of honor arrives, greeting each guest as she arrives. Whether a shower is 4 months or 2 weeks before the wedding depends on when the hostesses are free, and the guest of honor is available. The hpsts, not the bride, decide how big or small the shower will be, 8 or 40. When a bride gives a list of women invited to the wedding , who are close enough to give her two gifts ( shower gift is always in addition to the wedding gift.) the potential host choose how many guests. They decide, home or yard or venue or state park, not the bride. Sometimes 3-4 groups in different areas, or ride family and friends, groom side, school friends, work friends, each offer a small shower, and do not want to combine or travel. The hosts, not the bride, choose budget, number, location, menu, and offer a good time for them. It is considered very rude for a bride to help plan, or make decisions instead of the hostesses. So please stop. Not everyone is offered a shower, it is not an automatic thing. It is not the responsibility of the wedding party, or MOH. Only people who volunteer, in the WP, or not in WP friends, or either family, or it may be 1 BM, 1 random friend, and groom's aunt. So do not assume who it will be, or the type or location. Wait for hostesses to volunteer. If you start planning it, some who think that is rude will no longer participate, even though they planned to. Ask on here about brides who say, well I am going to do it anyway. Then later are back , saying only 5 or seven of 40 invited, came. Yes, well, people warned you it was rude, and this is your friend's way.
It is awful to give a party for yourself, and no one comes.
So you do not need to worry about when to arrive. The hostesses will let you know.

I was at my shower early to greet guests.

I arrived to my shower after everyone was there. It was technically a surprise (although I did know the date) and my husband drove me. My shower was 3 weeks before my wedding. Most showers I've been to actually, the bride was the last to arrive and brought by the future spouse.