Bridal shower

I'm not having one because it's a second marriage for both of us, and i'm 49 and he's 54, so we really have all we need. I had one my first marriage because I was 21 and had nothing for a home

View Quoted Comment I do understand that. This is my first marriage and we are young, but we already live together. Do you think having one enhanced your overall bridal experience any further?

I’m opting out of the shower. Frankly, I don’t need anything and when we decide that we do need something, we buy it then and there. Not to mention, we’re getting financial help from our families (they’re insisting) and I don’t want them or anyone spending more money on us.

I did not plan on having one and honestly did not want one. I don’t really like being the center of attention like that and thought a shower was kind of a waste of money. Then my MIL said they were throwing me one and is this date okay. I was like okay....sure... (my husbands family is all boys in his generation, including cousins, so my in laws were excited to plan something)
I was dreading the day.
I showed up with a positive attitude and ended up having a blast. Maybe you’ll have more fun then you think you will?

We had two showers and had a pretty decent size registry. We weren’t one of those couples that already had everything we needed. I don’t understand the double gifts thing though because I never see physical gifts being brought to weddings.

View Quoted Comment I have been told that that the reason for it is for people who can't come to the wedding or are not invited to come to the shower, but I personally dont have anyone that I wouldn't invite to the wedding that I would invite to this party .

View Quoted Comment Number one etiquette rule is don’t invite anyone to the shower who isn’t invited to the wedding!

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Back then it did. I actually had two because my former in-laws for some reason didn't want to come to the one given by my family and friends. The one the my former MIL gave me was a kitchen shower, so we were really stocked up with towels, dishes, even spices. It was exciting to register for stuff and see what i'd get. It made me feel like a bride back then

I also felt like I didnt need anything, I've had my own apartment for almost 5 years now. My mom suggested registering for upgrades. For example, I have towels and bedding, but they are on the cheap side because I bought them for college. I dont think there is nothing on my registry that I dont already have a version of.

If someone wants to throw you a shower, I would just accept it. That's when most people give you gifts anyway, so I wouldn't worry about looking like you are asking for double gifts.

I didn't want one, (not wanting to be the center of attention, usually not very social, not having a traditional wedding, etc) but now as my time gets closer and I see all the great pictures people post on WW, I'm wishing someone from my FH family would throw one. My family is all across the country, so they wouldn't, but my FH has a very large, close family in our area. For me, it's not about the presents; it's the celebration of being a bride. I'm not having a bachelorette party either and am starting to wish someone would throw one.

My sister and mother threw me one and it was a wedding shower that included the men from the bridal party and my FH. We loved it, it was a fun time to get together and catch up with some people and it also gave us a little taste of the wedding vibes. We had a great time, it was a short thing from 11:30 to 1:00 PM and it was a good time for some snacks/food, mimosas and gifts.

I wasn't planning on having one, 8 of my 9 bridesmaids are out of state (including my MOH) and I have to travel for my bridal shower. My mom stepped in & hosted in Colorado (where I live) and my MOH flew in. I was so happy! 2 of my bridesmaids attended too. I had a lot of fun, I wasn't really involved in planning besides guest list. It was a fun day & a lot of the guests were happy to meet each other prior to the wedding. I won't be mad if anyone gifted me for the shower then skips a gift for the wedding.

I chose not to have a shower (one was offered) because I have never enjoyed attending them and truly don't understand asking for gifts (this is for me personally; I understand I am in the minority here and most people consider gifts part of the overall wedding experience).

So, I just politely declined the offer. I know the person who offered was disappointed but there is nothing rude about saying no thank you to a shower and just because someone else is disappointed doesn't mean I/you did anything wrong.