Bridal shower

I think you can suggest to pay for certain things that you want like the decor or just buy some decor and ask for them to use it

I think If there is something specific you want that is a boujee extra than it’s fine to buy it yourself. Like those cute back drops. I would totally buy one for myself!

No. The bride is the guest of honor. People will throw you a shower so don't worry.

I mean not supposed to but in my opinion if you feel noone going to throw I want then you can....

I think it depends on who is hosting and how you approach it. You aren't supposed to have a role in planning it or hosting it or paying for it, so some people would be offended if you stepped into planning and assumed they couldn't afford/couldn't host an event up to your standards. Other people would be glad you said something. I think you have to feel out your host and see what they would think about you doing this. The last thing you want to do is offend your host.

I don’t think you should be paying as the guest of honor. However, it’s totally ok for you to buy decor and then ask for it to be used. Or send her your decor ideas maybe she can get your other friends/other bridesmaids to pitch in

My moms paying for mine. i know for fact my bridesmaids would not pay a dime

Why is decor and details so important for your bridal shower? I think of a bridal shower as a gift from my loved one who are planning it. It would be ungrateful to dictate exactly how it should be or how much to spends.

I have noticed on here many people are completely against it and I understand why but if you are anything like myself, I cannot have someone else plan an event for me. I took care of most planning for my bridal/wedding shower due to the fact that I wanted a specific venue and it was $1100 to rent and other details that I could not bare ask someone else pay for. My fiance and I are also those friends without babies in our friend group and family and we like to treat ourselves to what we like (while we can). My family provided the food, drinks and alcohol and I took care of the rest because I like things done a certain way. Everyone knows I am like that so it worked out fine. Now closer to my wedding my SIL is throwing me another smaller scale bridal that is a "surpirse" from my girls. I really think it comes down to you. Def. do what you want because this will be your only bridal party but also take all the help that is offered. Or if someone already offers to host just offer to provide the things you'd like!

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These are my feelings, exactly. The decor or venue not being the way you envisioned is not going to make the party any less of a celebration of your wedding. The wedding ceremony and reception are where you and your future spouse get to control every detail.

My mom and maid of honor are “planning” my bridal shower but I’ve been suggesting decor and have bought some things myself. I am very specific with what I want too so I don’t think it’s a big deal. Everyone seems to be ok with it.