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Joelle
Beginner July 2021

Bridal shower

Joelle, on August 12, 2019 at 9:41 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 21
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Hey!

How does everyone feel about bridal showers? Are they truly necessary? My fiancé and I don’t want to make a registry because we don’t really need anything and tbh we prefer only getting cash at the wedding itself. He has been living on his own for years so he has most of what we would need when we get a house together (We don’t currently live together). Since there’s nothing we need or want item wise and weren’t planning on making a registry, should I not bother having a shower? I feel like there’s no point since they’re generally strictly for gift giving. Does anyone have any thoughts?

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Latest activity by Sarah, on August 14, 2019 at 7:45 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Showers are totally unnecessary and if you don’t want physical gifts I would skip it.
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  • Elizabeth
    Dedicated October 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    I think you should do whatever you feel is more fitting to you as a couple. Showers arent for everyone. What if you did a homeowner's fund or honeymoon fund instead? It's something people can contribute to make it feel more like a gift.
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  • Sara
    Devoted April 2020
    Sara ·
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    I agree they are totally optional as is the registry but you could always use them to update things such as appliances, decor etc. But If you decide to skip it I think that’s fine too.
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  • Joelle
    Beginner July 2021
    Joelle ·
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    When someone has a shower, do people generally give gifts there off the registry on top of giving cash at the wedding, or one another? I’m totally new to this and have never even been to a shower before
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  • Joelle
    Beginner July 2021
    Joelle ·
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    Yes I guess I won’t have one
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  • Joelle
    Beginner July 2021
    Joelle ·
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    I like the idea of having a shower, but I feel it’s unnecessary since I don’t need gifts. He and I really want cash and checks so we can invest it all
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    They aren't necessary but they're definitely fun and nice to have. Just another event for people to get together to celebrate you Smiley smile
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  • Toni
    Expert November 2019
    Toni ·
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    Any weddings I’ve gone to, people give physical gifts or gift cards at the shower and cash for the wedding
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  • Sara
    Expert October 2019
    Sara ·
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    I would skip it especially since you aren’t going to have gifts. I am doing the same thing since we have been living on our own for a while so we already have 2 of everything. I don’t regret Not having a bridal party.
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  • Sara
    Devoted April 2020
    Sara ·
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    So every bridal shower I’ve been to people bring gifts that are either off the registry, something sentimental or personalized for your wedding, lingerie, or gift cards, then bring cards with cash in them to the wedding. So if you guys don’t want the registry gifts I would skip a shower.
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  • Jennifer
    Super September 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    I'm not doing a shower for similar reasons.
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  • Sarah
    Devoted November 2021
    Sarah ·
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    Showers are a fun way to introduce your family and loved ones to his. Maybe do a recipe shower?
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    If you don't have a physical gift registry, I would 100% skip a bridal shower.

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  • Joelle
    Beginner July 2021
    Joelle ·
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    What is a recipe shower? Sounds interesting
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  • thisismrsb
    Expert June 2019
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    A shower is a nice way for the women in your families to celebrate you. My best friend wasn't going to have one, but her FMIL and FSILs wanted to throw her one. You don't have to have one, if course, but it's definitely a nice gesture. My mom and aunts had a great time planning mine. I feel like a bridal shower is not just about celebrating the bride, but also about celebrating and congratulating the women (or men) who raised her.
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  • Sara
    Expert February 2020
    Sara ·
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    I personally think they're unnecessary. I've been living on my own for over a decade now..and there's nothing I want other people to get for us that I can't just eventually get myself. Plus I'm introverted..and that's a lot of socializing.
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  • T
    Dedicated September 2019
    Teresa ·
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    If someone wants to throw you a Bridal Shower then let them. They just want to celebrate your happiness.

    BUT, if you're thinking you're going to miss out on something spectacular if no one throws you a Shower...trust me you're not.

    My work Bridal Shower was a disaster and only a few coworkers came for reasons that were out of my control. The Bridal Shower that my Mom wanted to throw for me actually never happened because people apparently HATE bridal showers. I'm not sure why but they do. My Mom received too little responses saying they'd come and decided to cancel it. My friends picked up the duty and threw me a small Shower because they felt bad. This, in turn, made me feel bad that they had to foot the Shower bill.

    So don't worry about it. If you want a celebration before the wedding have an engagement party and make it themed and fun.

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    You're completely free to skip a shower! I don't really want one because I feel awkward opening gifts in front of others. My face never lies Smiley laugh

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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
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    I think they are not necessary.
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  • Joelle
    Beginner July 2021
    Joelle ·
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    I’m the same way. I’m very introverted. I also feel that any gifts I could possibly ask for on a registry, even if it’s something I need, I could easily buy it for myself, which is another reason why I don’t feel I need a bridal shower. My fiancé and I would much rather cash we’ll get at the wedding to invest for our future
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