Bridal Shower/Engagement Party

It's not a difficult concept. You don't host a party in your own honor, particularly a gift giving occasion like a shower.

Showers normally happen a few months to a few weeks before the wedding, so there is lots of time for someone to hos.If no one steps up and offers to host a shower, you do'lt have one, simple as that.

It's bad form to host your own engagement party or shower because these are events that are thrown in your honor and are gift giving occasions. If you host your own, it looks like you're fishing for gifts.

Both engagement parties and showers are optional events. If someone offers to throw one for you and you accept the offer, great! If no one offers, that's okay, too. You will still be married when your wedding day comes. We didn't have an engagement party and we lived.

BP members are not required to host showers, bachelorette parties, or engagement parties. They are your honored guests at your wedding that you've chosen to stand up with you on your wedding day. That means they are only required to get their attire and show up at the wedding. Anything they may offer to do beyond that is extra and completely up to them.

Hosting these parties is in no way limited to your BP members. Someone else close to you can also offer to host one of them. Showers, engagement parties, and bachelorette parties are hosted by whoever offers. It just depends on who is willing and interested in doing it.

Basically, you sit back and don't worry about this. If someone close to you offers to throw an engagement party now that you're engaged, you have one. If no one offers, no big deal. You just don't worry about it.

Showers are typically thrown in the 3 months prior to your wedding date, so there's no reason to expect anyone to offer to throw one at this point. It's the same deal as the engagement party, though. You sit back and don't worry about it. If it happens, it happens.