Bridal/honey do shower etiquette

Etiquette says no, but it really is a know your crowd type thing some ladies from my work wanted to come to mine even though they weren't invited to the wedding. If your MIL is hosting and invites them it's really out of your hands anyways.

You absolutely shouldn’t invite someone to the shower to bring you a gift if they aren’t invited to the event that you’re celebrating in the first place.

View Quoted Comment I agree. The purpose of a shower is to shower the bride/couple with gifts and things. And it's not fair to invite them to one and not the other. Because it's a destination wedding, I would only invite people who are invited to the wedding but may not be able to attend because of distance and travel. And they can make a decision on if they want to attend, or you could just ask them.

This is the risk you run with deciding to have a smaller wedding or destination wedding. They shouldn't have to bring you a gift at your shower if they don't get to view your nuptials. It should really only be those you invited to the wedding. IF they're super insisting and they don't receive a STD knowing full well they aren't invited to the wedding and still wanna go to the shower I mean I guess you could. I personally wouldn't be the type of person to offer someone a gift if I wasn't important enough to be present at their wedding.

You only invite guests to wedding related events if they are invited to the wedding.

I was invited to a bridal shower and not until right after the shower was I told I was not invited to the wedding (I was dating a groomsman at the time and he was the one to tell me after the shower, the bride didn’t even tell me). It was so embarrassing and I felt kind of hurt. In my opinion, if you have a shower, ONLY invite those you have invited to the wedding.