Bride Body Acceptance

You'll be a beautiful bride, no matter what!

I'm in the exact same boat as you. I wanted to lose. I let myself down. Life happens though. At the end of the day, it's not what I see myself as but that we're happily married. No one will notice if we didn't lose that 10-20lbs we've been struggling with!

Thank you for sharing!!!

I wasn't trying to lose weight before the wedding, but I was trying to tone up. And, you know what? I was almost more stressed about having a toned tummy and back and arms than I was about planning the wedding (and that's saying something)! There's only about 2 1/2 more months until our big day and just last week I told my FH that I wasn't going to be trying to tone up anymore. Yes, I'm still eating generally healthy and going to the gym a few times a week. But I'm no longer stressing over it! Whenever I second guess myself, I look at pictures of myself in my dress and know I look fabulous

We're all amazing and will look STUNNING on our wedding days!

You will look beautiful no matter what!

I understand completely, I was going to be 180 pounds no matter what!!! But guess what, my only brother passed away and even though I was soooooo close to being goal weight depression took over and I’m back to my start weight of 220 pounds. It’s not the end of the world either because guess what! Not every bride loses there only brother. I can’t be the fit bride I wanted to be and that’s okay. So don’t worry. Either way you will be beautiful

That is beautiful, you should be proud of yourself. Many struggle with accepting self image (including myself).

Everyone is different, and things affect everyone differently (skinny people have struggles, too). However, what is most important is that you care for yourself, love yourself, and have the support of the man you love (or SO).

This is a very important step forward, be proud and good luck! I'm sure you will look amazing on your wedding day!

On a personal note: I started using some MaryKay products that made my face look really clear, and since than I'm felt 100% better about my self image. I've started doing Zumba 30 minutes a day, and it has made me begin to feel sexier. Little things help. My FH being supportive really helps, too! It's better to be happy and healthy than miserable and depressed.

So much truth here. I’m 3 months out from the wedding and only lost 1/2 the weight I originally wanted to. It’s so hard to accept.

Bravo! I needed this bad today thank you ❤️❤️❤️

I’m in the same boat 😫 I made my alterations appointment and realized “oh my gosh, I only have 2 weeks to look my best?” Lol I’m spending the next two weeks eating right and exercising to FEEL as good as possible, but not stressing or going overboard about it as I know my fiancé loves every inch of me.

Girl I lost almost 30 lbs and I STILL feel this way. Feeling like I could have been a prettier bride if I had lost more weight before the big day is a feeling that still nags at me now with the wedding less than 2 months away. I hate that other women feel this way because it SUCKS. But just know you aren't alone. No matter your size you will be beautiful on your wedding day!!

Thank you for sharing. I really like the quote you included. In my life, I've had some drastic weight changes from being the "skinny, petite" girl and modeling in college to going through chemo and gaining 100 pounds to losing the chemo weight but never getting "skinny" again to now being "pleasantly plump." What I've learned is that body acceptance has nothing to do with what the scale says. I always thought I was fat when I was the girl in high school who weighed less than her peers. And then once I actually gained the weight and was "fat" I noticed a change in how some people treated me (yes fat discrimination exists). I had a few people question my ability to play tennis, do yoga, and run a marathon (all activities I did just fine and was never questioned about when I was thinner). I actually grew to like this "people barometer" that developed with my weight and realized that I only wanted friends and a partner who did not treat me differently based on my weight. I then grew to accept myself no matter my size. I think this is crucial because in my experience we will never be skinny enough to be happy. Happiness and acceptance are independent and unrelated from what our body looks like or how much we weigh.

TBH, there are pictures of my wedding I don't love. My weight is around my middle and I can be confused as being pregnant. But there are so many more that I love, and most importantly, I was so ultimately happy and felt beautiful. That is what comes across in the pictures. In my experience, a bride is always beautiful on her wedding day. And you will be too.

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Thank you!!

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Yeah, I'm just in the transition phase of transitioning from the mindset of "gotta lose so much weight so I am the prettiest I can be" to "I am who I am, and that is going to have to be okay." We are all our own worst critics...I just need to stay away from mirrors, lol. My weight doesn't bother me, if I don't look in them!

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I told FH I was done stressing over weight loss (in your case toning) too. I was starting to make myself miserable worrying about it, but constantly letting myself down at the same time. I think transitioning to a better/healthier mindset will be a much better way to go for me.

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Thank you!!

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So sorry for your loss! I struggle with depression too, so that definitely doesn't help motivate weight loss.

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I think we can all be our own worst critics. I just really want to learn the "self love" thing, especially because I have two daughters that are watching.

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Very hard, but if we can then I think it'll help put us in a healthier / happier mind frame.

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You're welcome! Figured I couldn't be the only one that needed to read/hear this!

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Yes, it definitely helps knowing my FH loves me no matter what...I just wish I could see myself as he does.