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Danielle
Master June 2019

Bride Body Acceptance

Danielle, on March 14, 2019 at 11:48 AM

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A few weeks ago, I posted about not losing the weight I wanted to lose before my wedding. Well, unless I want to kill myself trying to quickly lose weight in a month before alterations have to be started, it's looking like I am going to be my current weight for my wedding. Therefore, I am now in the...

A few weeks ago, I posted about not losing the weight I wanted to lose before my wedding. Well, unless I want to kill myself trying to quickly lose weight in a month before alterations have to be started, it's looking like I am going to be my current weight for my wedding. Therefore, I am now in the "acceptance" stage...or at least trying to be. Over the past couple of days of realizing I ran out of time, at no one's fault but my own, I have been crying over the fact that I let myself down. I wanted more than anything to be a "skinny" bride, but that just isn't going to happen. I've always struggled with the "happy" weight I've gained throughout my adult years of enjoying life, having kids, and being in a happy/healthy relationship. What I wouldn't give to be that skinny teenager that thought she was fat (insert eye roll). However, I'm really hoping I can learn to accept my body for what it is, because I really don't want to regret anything about my wedding. I came across this article, and y'all....I was crying the entire time reading it! It's a good read for anyone else that may be struggling with their weight or body image. So, I thought I'd share. Anyways, congrats to everyone that worked hard and lost the weight they wanted to; and no worries to the ones that didn't, because you will still be a BEAUTIFUL bride!!! Smiley cry Smiley heart

https://apracticalwedding.com/fat-bride-body-image-wedding/


"My vow to myself is that from here on out, I do nothing but love my body. If that means I eat balanced and work out three to four times a week, great. If that means I eat a pint of ice cream while watching Survivor, that’s fine, too. These last three months before my wedding will be a different type of losing weight for me. I am going to work on losing the weight of the hate, resentment, and fear that have shaped my relationship with my body for the last fifteen years. My hope is that on my wedding day, I am able to embrace my size, not shame it. My dream now is that I have only positive thoughts about myself on my wedding day, and that I let myself feel the happiness, joy, and love of the day. I might not look the way I always wanted to, but I will not let those negative thoughts about my body bring down the day I marry the man I love. On our wedding day, I will declare my love for my fiancé, but I will also declare my love for myself." -Emily Hill, 2015

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  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
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    It definitely does suck! Thank you and congrats on the weight you lost.

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  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
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    One of the worst times is when my 5 year old tells me "mommy you look like you have another baby in your belly." Smiley cry Like gee, thanks. Dang kids and their unfiltered mouths, haha. Anyways, I am trying to change my mindset to "self love" instead of "self hate" because 1) I want to be happy at my wedding and not concentrate on what I didn't accomplish, and 2) I have two daughters that look up to me and see/hear how I view myself.

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  • Alicia
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    I love that, so much. You are going to look beyond beautiful on your wedding day!!!

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  • LaLa
    Devoted October 2019
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    I'm super self conscious & have low self esteem. I got my engagement pics back and I love them, but I just keep looking at them and thinking how ugly I am. I'm nervous because both of my bridesmaids are gorgeous ... I'm scared I'm going to look the worst in all of my wedding pictures and be the troll lol. I'm going to try and love myself more as this article says. It's hard though! lol

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  • Alyssa
    Dedicated June 2019
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    You'll be beautiful dude. Don't stress the weight, it's only a number.
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  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
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    I wish for that too! FH is always saying, "you're beautiful, I love you, you're perfect just the way you are!"

    I really want to believe that within myself. I believe that he feels that way about me, but I have a much harder time getting there in my own head. I have found that it's something I need to tell myself every day. It doesn't matter what I weigh.

    The day I found my wedding dress, I got a glimpse of that self-love. When I came out wearing "the one" I looked at myself, and couldn't believe what I was seeing! I actually looked good! Others said so, but it was a much bigger deal to know that I thought so too. It was the first time in a long time that I felt beautiful. I was actually really dreading the dress shopping, because I hate trying on clothes of any kind. I always end up feeling fat and disappointed and bad about myself. But at that moment, wearing what was to become my wedding gown, I felt beautiful!! It was one of the greatest moments of my life!

    It gave me a little bit of hope that maybe I could actually love myself, no matter my shape. Very impactful moment for me.

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  • Felecia
    Beginner May 2019
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    Hello Danielle, Thank you. I too was trying to loose weight for my Vow Renewal this coming May. My husband and I have been married for 27 years;; and I know (for sure) that he loves me-- No, that he's "in love" with me, and has "NEVER" made me wander. As we celebrate our renewal, I won't be the size, or have the shape that I desperately wanted, but I will have the one thing that will truly matter;; the unbreakable love of my True Love.
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  • Tori
    Devoted March 2019
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    You know girl life happens! You will be beautiful no matter what. I myself was on a weight loss journey before I got engaged and I've lost 40 pounds overall. I wanted to lose 15 more but then my trainer moved away and I switched jobs which caused me a lot of depression so I didn't hit the gym. I started to get back in a groove and my dog was diagnosed with stage 4 lymphoma. He's doing great now, but it made me a homebody because I wanted to spend every last second with him. So I am what I am before my wedding next weekend. I'm beyond thrilled to be marrying the love of my life and sometimes I wish I had committed more, but sometimes things come up and you can't be as disciplined as you want. Be happy with who you are!
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  • Natalie
    Beginner May 2019
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    I love this! I lost 10 pounds and it’s starting to creep right back up but you know what? Celebrate the curves! Who are we kidding? How we look for one day of our lives won’t destroy us! Could I be 20 pounds lighter? Yea. But I love good food so yea, whatever weight I am at my wedding, is whatever weight I will be. I’m already so stressed with school and the wedding, my weight shouldn’t be added stress. I told my FH, you are getting all of these rolls and you’re gonna love them just as much as you love me.
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  • Angela
    Expert June 2019
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    Agreed. Thanks for this post and sharing this article. There’s so much truth to it.
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  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
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    Thank you...so will you!

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  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
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    SO HARD!! Every thing you just said is me to a T.

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  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
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    Thank you!! Smiley shame

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  • Alexandra
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    This is beautiful!! And you will be a beautiful bride no matter what weight. Your fiance loves YOU, just the way you are... It is good to be healthy but not to kill yourself for a body that is physically and biologically impossible now after you have lived Smiley smile

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  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
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    I did love the way I looked in my wedding dress when I picked it out. Hopefully I'll get that same feeling on the day of with my hair & make up done too. I think the part I'm most annoyed with is the pictures. I am not photogenic, and generally hate pictures of myself....but hopefully I can get the photographer to work some angles and help me out, lol.

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  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
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    Congratulations on your vow renewal!!! 27 years is a big accomplishment. I know my FH loves me no matter what, I just have to work on the "self love" aspect.

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  • Danielle
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    Thank you...I am trying to. I feel like if I can just get into the mindset of "be happy with who you are" then I will be okay. Just hard to switch from a lifetime of "I hate the way I look" to "self acceptance."

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  • Danielle
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    LOL, I told FH the same thing. I was making myself miserable trying to diet and lose weight quick, that I finally threw in the towel and said "I'm done! You are just going to have to be okay with marrying a fat bride!" Of course he loves me for the way I am, so he's okay with my weight no matter what.

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  • Danielle
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    Thank you! I won't stop trying to be healthier, but I can't make myself miserable trying to achieve unrealistic expectations.

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  • Danielle K
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    Smiley heartSmiley heartSmiley heart

    I love this so much. You are beautiful and honestly I needed this! Thank you for sharing

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