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Danielle
Master June 2019

Bride Body Acceptance

Danielle, on March 14, 2019 at 11:48 AM

Posted in Fitness and Health 45

A few weeks ago, I posted about not losing the weight I wanted to lose before my wedding. Well, unless I want to kill myself trying to quickly lose weight in a month before alterations have to be started, it's looking like I am going to be my current weight for my wedding. Therefore, I am now in the...

A few weeks ago, I posted about not losing the weight I wanted to lose before my wedding. Well, unless I want to kill myself trying to quickly lose weight in a month before alterations have to be started, it's looking like I am going to be my current weight for my wedding. Therefore, I am now in the "acceptance" stage...or at least trying to be. Over the past couple of days of realizing I ran out of time, at no one's fault but my own, I have been crying over the fact that I let myself down. I wanted more than anything to be a "skinny" bride, but that just isn't going to happen. I've always struggled with the "happy" weight I've gained throughout my adult years of enjoying life, having kids, and being in a happy/healthy relationship. What I wouldn't give to be that skinny teenager that thought she was fat (insert eye roll). However, I'm really hoping I can learn to accept my body for what it is, because I really don't want to regret anything about my wedding. I came across this article, and y'all....I was crying the entire time reading it! It's a good read for anyone else that may be struggling with their weight or body image. So, I thought I'd share. Anyways, congrats to everyone that worked hard and lost the weight they wanted to; and no worries to the ones that didn't, because you will still be a BEAUTIFUL bride!!! Smiley cry Smiley heart

https://apracticalwedding.com/fat-bride-body-image-wedding/


"My vow to myself is that from here on out, I do nothing but love my body. If that means I eat balanced and work out three to four times a week, great. If that means I eat a pint of ice cream while watching Survivor, that’s fine, too. These last three months before my wedding will be a different type of losing weight for me. I am going to work on losing the weight of the hate, resentment, and fear that have shaped my relationship with my body for the last fifteen years. My hope is that on my wedding day, I am able to embrace my size, not shame it. My dream now is that I have only positive thoughts about myself on my wedding day, and that I let myself feel the happiness, joy, and love of the day. I might not look the way I always wanted to, but I will not let those negative thoughts about my body bring down the day I marry the man I love. On our wedding day, I will declare my love for my fiancé, but I will also declare my love for myself." -Emily Hill, 2015

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  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
    Danielle ·
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    You're welcome! I just wanted to share in hopes that it could help get other struggling brides through their journey.

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  • Felecia
    Beginner May 2019
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    Yes, we do.Smiley smile
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  • Renée
    Devoted March 2019
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    I’m working on this so much. My wedding is in a week and I had my final fitting a couple of days ago. I’m so disappointed by the way I look in my dress. It still has a bit of work to go on it and I’m picking it up Wednesday. I don’t even want to try it on again. It is what it is at this point.

    I’ve been working so hard to lose weight and have the additional issue of breast cancer (remission and yay for my life) with no reconstruction. People don’t realize that the surgery means removal of all breast tissue so the “lead-in” to your breasts above them is also all missing. It makes anything that’s not a high neck look weird. So I’ve also had to add a modesty panel and pockets for the prostheses. This isn’t the dress I would have chosen if my body was different. I didn’t get to go shopping and find “the one”- just bought one online and had alterations.

    Right now I’m feeling like the best I can hope for is looking kind of normal ish. I don’t expect to feel beautiful and hope I look happy. Dreading all the cameras of the day.

    I know I need to work on feeling better and I don’t want to be in this place while I’m marrying my best friend, who thinks I am beautiful every day. I never look at others in a judgmental way and find other women so beautiful with all of their flaws. Working on extending that to me too. Thanks for letting me vent.
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  • Renée
    Devoted March 2019
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    Thank you for sharing this. I gained a lot on chemo too.

    Reading your story helped me Smiley heart
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  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
    Danielle ·
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    Congrats on your remission! Even though you may not feel like it, I am sure you will be beautiful in your dress on your big day. I predict your FH crying his eyes out when he sees you walking down the aisle.

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