One of my friends is getting married in 7 months and originally told us that as her bridesmaids we were free to choose our own styles for the bridesmaid dresses (as long as we stuck to the color, length and material she had already chosen). We were all on board.
Fast forward to now...
She (the one getting married) has been going out and trying on bridesmaid dresses alone without any of us 6 bridesmaids.
At the moment she has found 2 styles and is now forcing all of us to pick only between two ugly potato sack looking dresses!
Each dress costs $300 each!!! We are each paying for our own dresses.
There are six girls different body types and the dress is very unflattering (even on her)
I feel she has gone back on her word and is not letting us choose our own style as she promised in the beginning.
She is also very rude in the group chat and demanded we go there in 2 days and make a full payment for either dress at the bridal store (where she has opened a profile).
She has NEVER once asked us what our budget was, we have tried suggesting online more nicer and budget friendly options, but she never listens to us.
I get it, this is her special day, but it has left me and the other bridesmaids feeling very annoyed, helpless and defeated.
She also wants all of us to throw her a lavish bridal shower and bring gifts (she's been living with her fiance for 2 yrs) and also after that throw her a bachelorette party!
What should I do? I am seriously contemplating dropping out as a bridesmaid at this point!
What excuses can I give ?