Bride in black

Maybe put it on the invitation
"We kindly request that guests do not wear black"
Also maybe word of mouth.
I love the bride in black btw.

I would do word of mouth personally

Probably just word of mouth, or on your website.

Black isn't super popular for weddings anyway, I would just pass it via word of mouth.

It is fine for you to let it be known that you are wearing a black gown for your wedding. It is impolite to tell or suggest to adult guests what to wear or not wear, beyond level of formality. Most guest, seeing you are wearing black, will avoid it. Unless they are irritated you shower a lack of manners in telling them what to wear, and make a point of wearing black because of it. . . Just let it be known, word of mouth and website, about yourself. 😊

I definitely would get the message to all guest. Via phone /txt / email because when some woman have an event and don't know what to wear they definitely rely on the little black dress.

I hate how some people say how "rude" or "impolite" something you want to convey is. I got so much hate over asking advice on wording on details cards and all that but honestly? You do whoever you want. Because in the end if you want to let them know, just let them know.

View Quoted Comment I actually had quite a few guests in black, my mom included.
Black is a classic elegant color.

I'd go with word of mouth and include a note on your wedding website!! I'd appoint a few friends and family members to help spread the word to your other guests!

If I were a guest, I'd prefer it be on a details card & website.

I would include it on a details card, a website if you have one, and word of mouth being the best and fastest way.

I went to a wedding on a boat last fall. There was no attire listed on the invitation and I didn't know what to wear, so I checked the couple's website which advised ladies to wear sensible shoes because the stairs on the boat were like "bleacher stairs." I ended up buying a pair of light gold flats with rubber soles and gold chains across the toes (almost nautical).


Putting attire information on your website can be helpful in this situation, because you can be more descriptive about the kind of attire you hope people will wear. Not everybody will see your website, so you can expect a few people to go the traditional little black dress route. Just don't be upset if they do. Definitely have people share that information by word of mouth.

Just a thought... even if a few of your guests wear black, I fully GUARANTEE that no one‘s going to mistake them for the bride and it won’t take any bit of attention away from you (same thing with guests wearing white). Everyone’s looking at you, so you’ll still stand out 100%. Therefore, I wouldn’t even stress with putting that info out there.

I’m wearing black and not saying a thing. Everyone can wear what they want I’m not worried about my spotlight being stolen lol.

View Quoted Comment My mom wanted to wear a black dress 🤦‍♀️
I compromised to Navy lol

It's rude and controlling to dictate what your guests can and cant' wear. You can definitely wear black - if another guest wears black i'm certain they will not be mistaken for the bride.